Stop discounting your successes. Start affirming them instead. Don’t say “Oh, it’s nothing” or “Everyone could do that”. Treat and talk to yourself as you would to a good friend.
Develop a positive attitude and choose to get your mind off the negatives. For example, write down three things that went well each day, and three separate things that you are thankful for.
Work on your appearance. Make an effort to look good, that doesn’t always have to cost the earth. Wear bold colour bottom & light colour t-shirt/shirt/top. Invest your little time in personal hygiene & skincare. Understand the importance of a nice perfume. Eat clean & workout frequently. You know the drill. That’s gonna make you feel much more happier and confident.
Don’t be a doormat or just follow the crowd. Think about your needs and what you want from life.
Be willing to take risks or calculated risks for god’s sake. If you don’t take a risk, then nothing’s going to change. And you’ll be stuck in a rut going nowhere in life.
The secret to self-confidence isn’t to stop caring what people think, it’s to start caring about what you think. It’s to make your opinion of you more important than anyone else’s. Confidence makes us beautiful and it comes from accepting yourself. The moment you accept yourself, it makes everything better.
Once in a while one friend or another asks me this question: “Tap, what you do when you are stressed!!?”.
OK. This one has two solutions for me; 1. Figure out who/what caused stress & kill that reason behind it silently. 2. Lift weights, do some 200 push-ups, look at my imperfect 5-pack abs in mirror, talk to my PhD research associates to figure out who is running ahead of me, login to my amazon seller portal to see how many boxes of whey protein we sold today, then have a pint of my favourite low calorie sugarfree ice cream in sea salt caramel flavour while watching Tom and Jerry.
Two easy ways actually. Most of the time i prefer the 2nd one because murder is still illegal. In case i get the opportunity to kill someone without getting punished, i would love to kill my bestie bitch by leaving her inside a huge bucket in any snowy swedish village during 2070 winter. If you are one of my close friends, you already know i am a simple stupid sober sassy person who is unaware of all emotional melodramas. Nobody is big enough to hurt me or give me stress. The worst things a human can do is; LIE. Every liar falls in line with every negative prediction. And i bet, after a while they seem fun & funny because of their repetitive pattern of lying. Fuck fake goodness. Tappie loves real people with clean intentions & bad will always work if it’s real.
Sometimes my friends ask “How/why am i good for my business?” Answer: Not because i am super motivated or fully dedicated, but because i am excited, self aware, funny, i always keep on reminding myself that my desires are my purpose, which makes the business look good & grow, employees/workers work with a delightful smile. Reason behind all is my believe in material growth.
One thing you can never point out in me is “MY CONSISTENCY”. Let me answer “the HOW”. I learnt it from my WORKOUT. Following fitness as a lifestyle choice is the biggest DISCIPLINE. Do you know why a person who’s going to gym is going to gym every single day without missing it!? There is something called DOPAMINE which hits you right after every workout creating wonders in head, heart & mood. When your workout gives you results, you never want to lose the streak of getting better stronger sassier. During this corona situation the only thing i missed is going to gym. Yes i was doing some 2-300 push-ups & squats in my house, but that never helped my hunger to lift weights. As i mentioned “DOPAMINE”; when your efforts show results, it’s a bliss to do what you do. Condition: you have to be CONSISTENT towards your desires & goals whether it’s fitness, studies or business. Whoever said it, said it right “CONSISTENCY IS THE KEY”.
Some exercises & workout everyday is my habit now. I love to see myself fit & fine everytime. God has given me a face to identify who’s TAP, can’t change it & YES they are important for my passport. But this body is mine, I will build it further every single day without taking a break. Few say I am obsessed, I say I am DEDICATED.
There is nothing obsessive about doing the right. Especially “OBSESSED” is a word used by lazy people to hide behind their mediocrity.
There was a time in my life when I used to hit gym every morning without fail, continued it for 3 whole years. Understood the capabilities of my body & mind, started feeling/looking the best version of myself after hitting that 5% bodyfat goal. I was always on schedule to sleep at night, because I was excited to wake up for 5AM morning workout. Body and mind both were on sync which helped me break my own comfort zone once again.
Yeah there were few who tried to stereotype me about my interest in gym & workout. The best part; all those who were saying that used to look like “Some Dad turned 50 & his only achievement is his beer belly”.How the fuck can “Gym” or “Workout” be a stereotype!! If it is, it is the best STEREOTYPE to be. At the end I must say “The difficulty in physical training/diet & lifestyle, handling such stereotypes with peace, all make you a DISCIPLINED person while strengthening your CHARACTER”.