People never understand “what you want to do” is always connected to “what you need to do”.
Suppose i want to be an engineer, i need to study engineering. Suppose i want to a writer/musician/athlete, i need to learn & practice writing/music/sports. Suppose i want to get fit, i need to workout.
What you want to do doesn’t make any sense till you aren’t following what you need to do first. This is the major reason most people stay unhappy & blame others for their failures. This one tiny mindset change can drastically evolve your life in a year.
NEEDS FIRST, WANTS NEXT.
(This movie trailer got nothing to do with the post above. My first real full-time job was software developer before i switched to data analytics field. I know where we are heading with time, our world isn’t going bad as this trailer shows. But the way technology is advancing, who knows what’s coming after hundred years!! Anyways, there are no boundaries for imagination.)
Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness. Laugh when you can. Apologize when you should and let go of what you can. Take chances. Give everything and have no regrets. Life is too short to be unhappy. You have to take the good with the bad. Smile when you’re sad. Love what you got and always remember what you had. Always forgive but never forget. Learn from your mistakes but never regret. People change and things go wrong.
At the end always remember; life is fun & life goes on.
What we don’t discuss about LIES? Some people lie to manipulate but few might be lying in an entirely different way. Lies of omission could be keeping you up at night. Maybe you’re unhappy with your relationship or your career. You could be lying to yourself or others, lying others that you’re satisfied when you aren’t. Are you hiding in the closet preventing others from knowing your true identity or maybe you told an outright lie and you’ve been carrying it with you for a long time!?! Whatever Secrets you’re protecting you can let the lie go by telling a trusted friend. Once you share the truth, the falsity fades away. Even when you believe that lying is the best or most moral decision, it can still take a toll on your conscience. You can move on from the regrets in a truce that are holding you back. Let go of the lies and live your life with honesty for happier existence.
Now if you saw this video, i would love to see every liar/cheater in this exact same position as this woman. Correction, there should be a database of cheaters so that people with healthy happy mindset can be aware whom to date & whom to wham bam thank you mam!! Not a single cheater understands these bold italic lines; “You are bound to sink if you put two legs in two boats. Just break up if you aren’t happy with someone. Be blunt & say it. Take a 3-6 month break to get rid of memories from previous relationship. That will help both to get rid of those up & down toxic cycles. Then start your next chapter from a clean slate”. When you lie about your income tax, property, anything illegal or criminal act, there is a law everywhere to deal with it. The fun part, there is no such things to deal with cheaters in a relationship. If you ever lie or cheat your partner, never expect a forgiveness. That’s just cheap & the only nature of CHEAP is; it gets cheaper with time. I can say the same for every inconsistent person. Learn to follow a consistent truthful life for your own happiness, that’s attractive & sassy af. Hope i was able to make little sense in my post.
Never badmouth others. No matter it’s in a professional or social setting, it’s not appropriate to badmouth people. You certainly will not earn any respect by doing this. If you’re unhappy with someone and what they’re doing, talk to them and work things out. Don’t talk behind their back. That’s the kind of behavior that attracts gossip and negativity. Not only does it reflect badly on you as a person. It also hurts the other party whether you realize that or not.
So be honest and transparent when you’re communicating with others. Always act as if the person you’re talking about is right there with you.