We already know that no one is perfect. But knowing that doesn’t keep us from doing things we might feel badly about later. Your mistakes & understanding to own them makes you unique. But when the same mistake is repeated often; that’s a sign of inconsistency in your character, which can later birth numerous bad habits & a peculiar tendency to become a systematic liar. Start from owning your mistakes one by one. I’ve found in times like that it’s best to come clean and own your mistake. People will be so much more forgiving and sympathetic when you are honest about it because they can relate. Even better, you will inspire them to do the same thing by showing them how honest and beautiful you can be without being perfect.
Stay strong. Tell on yourself today about something you feel badly about having done or said in the past. We should regret our mistakes and learn from them, but never carry them forward into the future with us.
If only people understood how important it is to be consistent. Everything that has value in life is a product of consistency. Success, health, fitness, wealth, friendships, relationships, and all other aspirations are all about CONSISTENCY.
You have to chase the things that ignite you. You have to do the things that bring you joy. You have to surround yourself with the people who bring you back home to yourself, with the people who respect you and embrace you in ways that make you feel like you are worthy and accepted and celebrated and loved. You have do the work to heal yourself, even when it hurts especially when it hurts, so that you do not continue to approach your life within the boundary of what is heavy within you. You have to put yourself out there, and you cannot worry about what other people think, you cannot rob yourself of experience or happiness or inspiration because you are scared of how you will be perceived. You have to be unapologetic in the way that you exist here. You have to believe that your ideas, and your hope, and your being, deserve to take up space. You have to believe that you have purpose.
Because our existence is finite. And as hard as that is to understand, as hard as that can be to connect with, from time to time remind yourself that in the most human way we are all living on borrowed time. We live as if we are promised the experiences and the potential we are chasing, we live as if we have control over what happens to us. But we don’t, and that is liberating, because it is pressing there is urgency within the lesson. It is meant to wake you up. Life is meant to be lived. (Not my words).
Mama once said; “We don’t just entertain friends/relationships outta fun, we build them over time, we respect them & we keep them. That’s why never accept or serve discounted garbage”.
I was in my teen days. I was still getting pocket money from parents. I wasn’t able to understand those heavy/right words. I thought my mum was talking about not buying discounted clothes/stuffs or wasting money with friends during weekend trips. Most of my friends know i hate discounted clothes now too. In fact, i don’t have a single piece of clothing from any fast fashion brands.
Coming closer to my 30, now i am understanding that she told me not to hangout with people who have discounted/cheap personality/approach/attitude/mindset, It took me almost 14 years to figure out the real meaning behind those wise words. Being a MAN means progression of understanding, knowledge, acceptance & virtue while developing better habits.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Watch it to understand how your shopping habits are shaping a climate & humanitarian disaster. There’s a reason I never buy clothes from H&M, Zara, TK Maxx or any store/brand with 50% discount board. I buy clothes which cost at least a hundred quid or more, and i wear them for ages. They stay with me because, I know I have spent enough money to buy them. And i fully remember how much I paid, I have a photographic memory. Fun part is, I still have t-shirts, jackets, hoodies & sneakers from my 8th grade & engineering college days which fit perfectly even today. FYI, I am a sneakerhead & my love for watches is something divine.)
Each of us leads unique lives with experiences that nobody else will ever completely understand. Your story holds so many valuable lessons that can help inspire, teach, and motivate someone else. Should you choose to share it!?! In life, I have heard so many different stories. Just by listening, I learned so many different things. I’m so thankful I found the courage to share my story as well and talk about what I’ve been through. Not only has it helped me, but it has helped give perspective and strength to so many other people, my people to be precise. I encourage you to do the same.
Share your story with someone who is worth your time. You never know how one sentence of your life story could inspire someone to rewrite their own. No matter what you have been through in life, good or bad, don’t take it for granted. There are lessons in every moment of our lives.
As you move forward, I hope you have the courage to do things differently, to be the kind of person who takes the risk, to be the kind of person who leads with their heart and shows up in their life with a ruthless dedication to learning, growing and enjoying the hell out of their moments here consistenly. DISCIPLINE & CONSISTENCY with your approach are the two tools which can empower you, make you stand out of the crowd in the race of becoming a better Human.
I hope you have the courage to never let comfort or apprehension convince you that you are better off staying still. I hope you have the courage to trust the part of yourself that knows there’s more out there for you, the part of yourself that is easy to quiet when you’re trying to live by the rules and the expectations of a world that has bred so much dissatisfaction and sadness. I hope you have the courage to trust the part of yourself that seeks freedom from those trends, from those boundaries, and I hope you have the courage to go after whatever it is that genuinely makes you want to get up in the morning. I hope you have the courage to find the things in life that ignite you and deepen your understanding of the world and those within it. I hope you have the courage to fight for a future that inspires you, even if it doesn’t look the way you thought it would. I hope you have the courage to change. I hope you have the courage to trust in the person you’re becoming. (Not my words).
TRUST is a bond between two people that is found only when they are able to listen and understand where the other person is coming from. That to me is the key to friendships and relationships.
Relationships between family, friends, significant others, and colleagues are complicated and full of learning experiences. Nobody comes into this world knowing everything. We all go through different experiences, make mistakes, have successes, and then make more mistakes that we can learn from. We all take our own sweet time to trust, evaluate, make a move, prepare and proceed.
When talking to friends or anyone who’s a part of your life, make sure you are really listening to what they have to say and aren’t distracted by something else. Most people just listen to respond, reply, retaliate or react, which is complete nonsense. Listen to understand, COMMUNICATION is the first step to TRUST. You owe that to them and you would want the same in return. The ability to trust and listen to the people in your life is the foundation all healthy relationships are built on. (Not my words).
In our lives we experience many different kinds of friendships. On the rare occasion we encounter someone so special that we just know we met for a reason. These are the kinds of friendships that last forever no matter what city you live in or how often you speak, no matter how old you get or what phase of life you are in. It’s the type friendship that has no judgement and sticks by you even when you fuck up. It’s the kind of friendship that makes you understand unconditional love. Maybe you met your most special friend when you were 4, or 14, or 35… or maybe you are yet to cross paths. It happens at different stages for different people. But when it does, there is no greater comfort than knowing that this person will be right there beside you to share the happiness, the sadness and everything in-between. Never, ever take these friendships for granted. (Not my words).
This paragraph is for my close friends. Yes i have a secret Instagram account since a month, it’s more like my travel timeline diary. Hardly 8-9 close friends know about it. Ask each other, let’s see who spills the bean first. I post few pics when i go to a new place, flight window seat view, some islands, coffee, the best pizza in town, my sneakers, it’s a raw me with privacy in focus. I hardly have 20 followers & i get 20-30 likes in each post. Recent 30 posts have likes or comments from 1 or 2 blue tick verified accounts. NOW THE TASK; My only rule to achieve something is; I allow myself 2 years to get it done or I just leave it like it didn’t exist. I was planning something big in 2019 for 3-4 months. Corona happened, i had to take a pause. I am already 3-4 months short of those 2 years. Go to that secret Instagram account, figure out what’s that i was working in 2019? Those blue tick accounts have a pattern. Once you have an idea about the answer, text me the title of it. The first person who gets it right, your expenses for our weekend trip & next vacation is on me. (Demi my bestie bitch, prize not for you. You know my credit card pin as well & I hate you.😋)
DO NOT LISTEN WITH THE INTENT TO REPLY/RESPOND. THAT WAY YOU WILL ONLY RETALIATE. LISTEN WITH THE INTENT TO UNDERSTAND.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. It’s just that i hate all such assholes who try to sell courses. Such punters have polluted internet, scammed thousands of people & that’s creating a world which is losing faith in simple basic values like HUMANITY.)
Sometimes it’s better to just let things be, let people go, don’t fight for closure, don’t ask for explanations, don’t chase answers, and don’t expect people to understand where you’re coming from.
And also sometimes it’s the little things. It’s the shoulder/forehead kisses and cooked breakfasts and the “drive safe” texts or a long mail/letter on your birthday/anniversary/celebration milestones. It’s those things that for some reason make you feel more loved than you ever have before. It’s easy to plan elaborate nights out, meetings or small weekend trips, when someone can make you feel so happy just by doing the smallest things. That’s when you know you’ve got something special in someone special. It’s never about finding the right one. A RIGHT PERSON IS RIGHT BECAUSE OF HIS/HER OWN WAYS WITH/WITHOUT YOU.