I’ve seen bad texters respond quickly and write paragraphs.
I’ve seen people who “aren’t ready for a relationship” get ready in few conversations.
I’ve seen a girl proposing me in front of 24 friends to marry her ASAP on my birthday, who used to say “I DON’T NEED A MAN TO BE HAPPY” since 7 years. (Hello Lioness😜).
A healthy adult relationship is one where both people in the relationship give and both receive. There is a safe, equal and open exchange of ideas, communication, feelings, and thoughts and all perspectives are considered and valued. There is also the freedom to respectfully challenge, heal, confront, and strengthen one another.
At the end what matters is a TRUTHFUL CONSISTENT person who gets you, no matter what’s coming. If someone wants you, you won’t have to ask for effort.
Find someone who loves you well. Someone who never belittles you even in the heat of an argument. Someone who is gentle with you, but does not treat you like you are fragile. Someone who knows what you are capable of, and celebrates those pieces of you. Not someone who is intimidated by your strength. Someone who doesn’t make you feel guilty for being flawed. It is not love’s job to punish you. And remember the person you love is just as broken as you are when they fall short. No one is perfect do not hold them to this standard.
Find someone who is patient, consistent, forgiving, and apologetic. Someone who practices forgiveness freely and often. Love someone who is humble, kind, and empathetic. Not only with you, but with a beggar on the street, or a stranger in the supermarket. Common courtesy is important. Compassion is important. Kindness is important.
Now that i mentioned something about relationships twice in a day, my university friends will again start questioning whether i am seeing someone! Let me answer even before that question pops up. Most of my posts are scheduled a month advance. Typing these two paragraphs today right before the post goes live.
I entertained something inconsistent for a while. Whatever happened, I am not strong enough to blame or hate anyone. Let’s say, that was my fault. I am in the process of becoming single. In Snapchat, if you see my hands resting on some girl’s fine 🍑, high chances it’s either my bestie DEMI or my neighbour girl. Yes, i have a ting towards athletic girls.♌ But I don’t have a TYPE whom i want to date. First i have to be ready, next the connection must vibe positivity & remain consistent, that’s all. The most beautiful part about a girl where my heart goes little weak; when i feel she is grabbing my arms little stronger looking into my eyes with a wide big bright smile, while crossing baby/kid’s clothing section in shopping malls. Everyone knows i adore kids, they are angelic to me. 2023 goal is to become the best A+ dad world has ever seen, and i will settle to be a good B+ boyfriend/husband i guess.😂
Strength is forgiving people that don’t even feel sorry for their action. Strength is putting a smile on your face when you want to cry a river. Strength is not hurting those who hurt you. Strength is forgiving others.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Watch it for fun, one of my favourites from superwog.)
Be a fearless dreamer. The world is your oyster. Write down the top 5-10 things you want to accomplish in the next month. May it be goals, people or purpose, remain CONSISTENT in pursuing what you want. Never stop striving to be the best you can be!
We all have to start somewhere and we must remember that our journeys aren’t mapped out for us. Dreams and visions will evolve and change as you do.
Every dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world. -HARRIET TUBMAN.
Each of us leads unique lives with experiences that nobody else will ever completely understand. Your story holds so many valuable lessons that can help inspire, teach, and motivate someone else. Should you choose to share it!?! In life, I have heard so many different stories. Just by listening, I learned so many different things. I’m so thankful I found the courage to share my story as well and talk about what I’ve been through. Not only has it helped me, but it has helped give perspective and strength to so many other people, my people to be precise. I encourage you to do the same.
Share your story with someone who is worth your time. You never know how one sentence of your life story could inspire someone to rewrite their own. No matter what you have been through in life, good or bad, don’t take it for granted. There are lessons in every moment of our lives.
You have to get to a point where your mood doesn’t shift based on the insignificant actions of someone else. Don’t allow others to control the direction of your life. Don’t allow your emotions to overpower your intelligence.
Self-control is strength. Calmness is mastery.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above and it also got nothing to do with next few lines i am typing. Shared it because this PEGASUS spyware row is getting wilder day by day. Governments of UK, India, France, USA, Dubai, Israel & 35 other countries tapped/hacked 50000 phone numbers of journalists, political leaders, terrorists, even a country’s prime minister. Am i against this? Hell NO. Countries are supposed to spy on each other for their safety. It’s a thing from cold war era, this will keep on going because it’s nothing new. Read more by clicking here.)
Here is a fact nobody wants you to know: you don’t need anybody, you just don’t.
I have seen people wreck themselves on the bedposts of lovers who don’t remember to call them. I’ve seen them come home with bruises, tell me it was in the name of feeling wanted, tell themselves this is the best they could have gotten. I’ve seen people ruin their brains on sharp teeth and harsh words, lovers who sink in their claws and toy with emotions. I’ve seem them lie in bed and refuse to start crying, tell me it was in the hopes of exchanging last names, tell themselves they want this forever and not that they just can’t escape.
Just stop, you got yourself here. You’re not going to crumble, you’re not. You’ve been carrying your own body weight since you were old enough to walk. Yours are the shoulders that have held up this world. You already have the strength within you. You’ve already made it this far, you can make it through. Don’t assign that power to anyone else. That spark rightfully belongs to you. Own yourself. (Not my words.)
You are being presented with a choice: evolve or remain the same. If you choose to remain unchanged, you will be presented with the same challenges, the same routine, the same storms, the same situations, until you learn from them, until you love yourself enough to say “no more”, until you choose change.
If you choose to evolve, you will connect with the strength within you, you will explore what lies outside the comfort zone, you will awaken, you will become, you will be what you want. You have everything you need. Choose to evolve.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Shared it because i am a big fan of Key & Peele. And this girl’s name should be DEMI instead of EMILY).