In a world where everyone is over exposed, the coolest thing you can do is maintain your mystery & reveal only what people deserve.
Let me shine light on this issue of “SMARTPHONE ADDICTION”. Just ask yourself “how many of you are starting and ending the day on your phone!!”. Most people are inseparable from their phones. Sometimes this type of connection can be more harmful than helpful, especially at the beginning and end of your day. It’s easy to form the habit of picking up your phone when you wake up and end the day scrolling. Many people even charge their phones right next to their beds.
But here the problem is emails, to do lists, social media feeds, games and everything else is just creating a barrage of distractions and ideas that cloud your mind creating no good outcome. For the sake of your mental well-being at least try to minimize technology as you start and end your day.
Being observant is fun, once in a while just enjoy sitting back. Just observing everything around you, crazy pretensious people, the constant postings on social media, the scandals and disrespectful behavior of actors/politicians/government officials, all may split you off because there is more to life. So just take a break, observe everything & keep on reminding yourself that; you must never become something this level of mediocre one day.
We must believe in being a true self, first you be the person you expect to welcome to your life, radiate the energy you want to be around. Learn to be humble and encouraging to all, but don’t put your time and trust if people don’t deserve. I have a simple word for it, KARMA & I do believe in it. So, be observant to not make similar stupid mistakes & create GOOD KARMA.
How many times have you felt losing your mojo towards people pretty quick!! Not talking about just some romantic bullshit, i am talking about friends or acquaintances. People turn boring when they stop adding some value/goodness to our life. Most think their social media presence & possessions are attractive. I low-key hate every single one who wants to build clout over instagram or tiktok just by following some trend, they are all generic crap in my eyes. Every pretty face will be replaced by another prettier face one day, that’s the reality of our world.
Want to show me you are fun & exciting!?! Let’s talk business, money, growth, technology, automobile, literature, workout, baking, real estate, career plans or if it’s a casual conversation tell me your taste in music with why so!! Life is small & exciting if you are on a journey to achieve something. Your goals make you gorgeous in my eyes. The same life can feel long & boring if you get along with people who don’t have much going on, same applicable on you for that matter. At the end i can say; people remain boring & mediocre out of own choice, it’s not any other person’s responsibility to point out that nonsense. Figure out & fetch your dreams. Life is fun, let it be.
How real is FOMO!?! Believing others are better off. The common saying “the grass is greener on the other side” can feel painfully true, especially in our modern world of influencers, social media and the fear of missing out associated to it. It’s common for people to present their lives online in a way that depicts only the best, the most glamorous pets, exotic trips, luxury purchases, a wild success. But sometimes glamour is entirely false, some people are more likely to lie online than in person. Although some may lie to protect their privacy, many invent stories to convince their followers that they’re living a spectacular life when they’re entirely ordinary. This delusion often convinces others that they are somehow failing at the game of life. Even worse, it causes self-blame and feelings of isolation. Know that most people don’t have it as good as they make it seem on social media.
Everyone experiences struggle and imperfection. If they say otherwise, they’re lying. Let go of the belief that you’re worse off than other people. Having what you think other people possess is not the solution. That desire is often a source of unhappiness. You are amazing on your own, your only competition & motivation should be a better version of you.
(If you don’t want to read something about my past personal experiences & jump to the heading of the post directly, skip first 3 paragraphs).
“Reject, V-step, Indian step, Reebok, Dougie, Robocop & C-walk”. Before these words start confusing you, let me clear they all are some forms of hip-hop dance moves. Coming to that reason why I mentioned something stupid like this in such a serious topic. To be a unique you, you either need to be better or different in a good way, this paragraph is about how different/impossible I am. I wasn’t a great student in my high-school/engineering college days because I was hella influenced by “how internet works” & step-up movies/hip-hop music. Again i was not a good student but a good scorer, still an amazing A+ (80%+) in entire student life. My interest for making own money got stronger which pushed focus towards freelancing projects related to some software development & little bit related to mechanical engineering tools like CAD/CAM, not gonna discuss all these failures/success related to my teen days. I value education & I am still pursuing my doctorate after master’s in business administration. I will remain a student forever. Writing this post about my teen & early twenty days while I am still in my twenties.
So why I mentioned those dance forms!! Like any young kid, even I wanted three things in common; “GOOD GRADES, GOOD CLOTHES/KICKS, GOOD LOOKS”. GOOD GRADES to make parents happy. GOOD CLOTHES/SNEAKERS to make friends jealous. GOOD LOOKS to woo/wow the hottest girl around. At the end, even when that was falling short my interests/hobbies/skills played a key role to move me towards what I desired. My interests in chess, robotics, dance, music, cooking, coding, piano, gym, boxing, trekking, skateboarding & surfing helped me get everything I wanted because of my PERSISTENCE. To attend an interschool essay/debate, compete at state-level chess, give speech in a seminar/conference, drive 200 kilometres for mountain climbing, walk 9 kilometres for finishing hiking/trekking, build robots to fight in engineering fests, woo that senior grade curly hair fit af light-skin girl with my b-boying dance moves before eating her entire summer vacation nights (during my A levels), all were a time consuming process and I was/am always persistent towards my desires. Everything I mentioned took tons of effort & dedication, that’s the only reason they all are still alive in me which reflects in my personality as well. Agree I am a generous happy happening horny little-arrogant self-invested athletic sober sweet pain in the ass, who is habituated to more than enough good/bad attention since a long long time because of everything I mentioned above about dance or anything else in my student life. I am so me because of all achievements/blunders I made during my teen days. (Another stupid info; It didn’t workout with the girl I mentioned, because she started smoking & doing drugs with her girl’s gang. I just hate smokers.)
Let’s talk a bit about how social media has bummed few of our social coping mechanism. In my engineering days when vine came, I loved few of those skits because they all were original/funny/witty. 6-10 seconds worth-it laughable moments in case you can figure out the humour meanwhile. Still I prefer Mr.bean anyday. But now when Tik-tok started getting popular after changing it’s name from “musically”, I hated the concept of every person lip syncing to the same song establishing that bullshit as a “TREND” for a week. When we talk 80’s or 90’s trend, we talk about a whole decade. The fuck is this current trend of Tik-tok which changes every week. Never downloaded that app in my phone, i saw some clips in YouTube because someone uploaded a collage of few clips. I hated it more than the word “Tik-tok”. Now instagram reels is doing exactly the same. And Instagram is a highlight reel of a person’s life since beginning. My point is; “if someone is happy to see your dance/face/ass for 15 seconds & gets entertainment from that, aren’t you literally selling yourself for a super cheap attention span!!” It’s not just you doing same enactment, there are literally a million others doing the same nonsense. There is nothing called creativity in it. That’s my perspective, anyone can argue & I will not connect to this idea of so-called entertainment in this perspective. That doesn’t mean all influencers should vanish from social media apps or you should stop posing infront of Eiffel tower touching it’s tip over air during your next trip to Paris. Do what you like and what you can allow yourself with a smile on your face, it’s WORTH IT.
Yeah, this post is about INSTANT GRATIFICATION. LET’S GO. Now a days the attention span of everything is decreasing with time. The coming generation is an example of “ready to eat” meal, including us 90’s kids. Whatever you want, you want it instantly. I mean there is no interest in investing yourself into anything, not a content, not a unique skillset, not an article, not reading a book, no interest in studies, not even in building a stable relationship. Everything must happen instantaneously. There is a big example how that reflects in society. You wanna watch a movie, you can watch it right now. You wanna watch a series, you can watch any episode from any season from any time. People skip seasons to binge next seasons. You don’t need to wait because you don’t want to wait for next episode to drop or go to a movie theatre for advance ticket booking. You wanna buy something, click amazon prime it’s arrived same day or next day. You don’t need to wait for anything. You don’t need to be persistent at all. Suppose you wanna go on a date, you don’t even need to be little aware of how to behave on your first date. You don’t need to work on “how to make the other person understand you value them”. You don’t even need to learn or practice that skill/manner to be a man/gentleman or a posh woman/girl (read it as you want). Swipe right, DONE. Zero social coping mechanism at play. Everything you want is instantaneous & it’s instantaneously available as well. Just gave you an Outlook of INSTANT GRATIFICATION.
Now what are those which is not available this easy? Answer: Work which satisfies your soul not just wallet & a strong stable relationship. Let’s say JOB SATISFACTION & TIME TESTED TRUTHFUL TOGETHERNESS, no app or no instantaneous approach will ever work here. These two are slow complex time consuming yet simple process, only if you acknowledge/endorse to be truthful & persistent. Few other things also take investment of time such as, MORAL, MONEY, SKILL, HOBBY, QUALIFICATION, SELF-RESPECT & CHARACTER.
In today’s world nobody is intrested to fetch/earn something amazing. Forget being smart or hard work, there is an existential crisis at play where all are actually dreaming for the minimum. Minimum wage, minimum amount of happiness, minimum timeframe to get fit/slim, minimum time to master a skill, minimum time/effort to get your life partner, most of which are nothing but a fake fuckery. My conclusion; Patience is missing. Desire to be skilled/informed is missing. Suicide/drug overdose deaths/alcohol/smoking/weed on rise. There is an entire generation of “OK” is booming where the idea/ideology of believing in self to become “EXTRAORDINARY/AMAZING” is missing. That’s my view on “INSTANT GRATIFICATION” & how it’s killing our society.