Positive attitude is about seeing goodness in every situation of life. If you have food in your fridge, clothes on your body, a roof over your head and a place to sleep, you’re richer than 75% of the entire world.
If you have money in your wallet, a little change, and can go anywhere you want, you are among the top 18% of the world’s wealthy people.
If you are alive today with more health than illness, you are more blessed than the million people who will not survive this week and die.
If you can actually READ this message and understand it, you are more fortunate than the 3 billion people in the world who cannot see, cannot read or suffer mental retardation.
Life is not about complaining pain and sorrows. It’s about a thousand other reasons to be grateful and happy.
Never ever feel like “I don’t have a choice”. No matter how tough a situation may seem, you always have choices and while you might feel overwhelmed or not brave enough to consider them all, you always have options to choose from to help you make the right choice.
You can think about what advice you would give to a friend in a similar situation or what someone you admire. You take this into account and see if you can do the same. Life is always about right choices.
Most of us humans suffer from something called “Black and white thinking” also known as polarized thinking. This is an all-or-nothing mindset that things happen either all the way or not at all. When extremes become the norm, you’ll start to think that there are only two outcomes to any situations wild success or terrible failure.
You might start to believe that people are either all good or all bad or that they must be either a loyal friend or an enemy. This cognitive distortion is completely unrealistic. It erases all gray areas or spectrums and leads you to believe things that are often untrue. Reality doesn’t exist in extremes and seeing it like that is unfair to yourself and others.
Being empathetic has some side effects as well. If you’re a genuine empath, others emotions can flip yours like switch. Have you ever had a day that was going great until it wasn’t because it was ruined by someone else’s bad day!? Imagine a day when you accomplished a lot of goodness, got positive feedback, focused on self care & feeling overall optimistic and confident. Then someone comes home, or you get a call or you meet up with a friend and their day isn’t going so well.
If you’re an empath, your own emotions immediately shift toward whatever they’re feeling, which can be disappointment, anger, worried or whatever. It’s like you lived through their day and not your own. This can make it difficult to hold space for that person as you attempt to cope with the same challenging emotions. People who can’t keep up with own emotional strides always bring negative impact to others. Learn to own yourself with time.