Someone told me this about relationships which touched my heart; “When it’s sent by God, it comes with confirmation. But when it isn’t sent by God, it will come with inconsistency, hesitation, frustration, and confusion”. I felt that for real.
Sometimes it’s better to just let things be, let people go, don’t fight for closure, don’t ask for explanations, don’t chase answers, and don’t expect people to understand where you’re coming from.
And also sometimes it’s the little things. It’s the shoulder/forehead kisses and cooked breakfasts and the “drive safe” texts or a long mail/letter on your birthday/anniversary/celebration milestones. It’s those things that for some reason make you feel more loved than you ever have before. It’s easy to plan elaborate nights out, meetings or small weekend trips, when someone can make you feel so happy just by doing the smallest things. That’s when you know you’ve got something special in someone special. It’s never about finding the right one. A RIGHT PERSON IS RIGHT BECAUSE OF HIS/HER OWN WAYS WITH/WITHOUT YOU.
You’re going to realize it one day that “HAPPINESS” was never about your job, or your degree, or being in a relationship. Happiness was never about following in the footsteps of all of those who came before you. It was never about being like the others. One day, you’re going to see it that HAPPINESS was always about the discovery, the hope, the listening to your heart and following it wherever it chose to go. Happiness was always about being kinder to yourself. It was always about embracing the person you were becoming while being consistent about your approach towards yourself & others. One day, you will understand that happiness was always about learning how to live with yourself, that happiness was never in the hands of other people. It was always about you. It was always inside you.
Inner peace is the new success. Health is the new wealth. Kindness is the new cool. Happiness is the new rich. (Not my words).
When I say I want to travel, I don’t mean I want to stay at resorts and go on tours with tour guides or buy key chains from souvenir shops. I don’t want to be a tourist. When I say I want to travel, I mean I want to explore another country and become part of it for 2-3 weeks. I want to discover small coffee/baguette shops in France, churrerias in Spain, Pasta/Pizza in Italy and much more beyond. I want to walk on beaches in Australia and browse the old book stores of London & Manchester. I want to hike the great wall of china and go cliff diving in Hawaii. I want to meet people who are not like me, but people who I can like all the same. I want to take pictures of things and places and people I meet, not stupid selfies for Instagram. I want my mind to be in constant awe of life on earth. I want to see things with new eyes & an open mind. I want to look at a map and be able to remember how I was transformed by the places I’ve been to, the things I’ve seen, and the people I’ve met. I want to come home and realize that I have not come home whole, but have left a piece of my heart in each place I have been. This, I think, is what is at the heart of adventure and this is why I plan on making my life one. Basically i will retire in my 30s while i am still a PhD research scholar/student & all these are my retirement plans.
Everyone is entering relationship, getting engaged or married or pregnant, then entering depression or their 5-month validity of joy. Meanwhile me & my bestfriend just wanna look fleek, stay single and travel, while building an automotive blog, selling atheleisure clothing & whey protein supplements online. Travel because you don’t remember years, you remember memories/moments.
Staying in a relationship just because you love somebody is not worth it. Love is not all you need. Respect is what you need. Reassurance is what you need. Communication is what you need. Heart to heart conversation is what you need. Happiness is what you need. Knowing everyday you’re their favorite person is what you need. Learn to love yourself first, let other one match it.
When someone not so familiar asks me “Ever been in LOVE!?!”. My answer is: Yeah 3 times.
1. When i woke up at 5.45am today morning just wearing a trunk & i saw my 5 pack abs. 2. When i was getting ready for university, because now i am a PhD research scholar. 3. When i received my bank balance text after buying groceries at Lidl. I fall in love with myself 3 times everyday.
Two exceptions i must mention; 1. When a kid accidentally says my name TAP after i touch his/her nose while saying TAP TAP TAP. 2. When a cute caucasian girl or a latina mami in a beach with a fine 🍑 approaches me, can’t beat that one. Special mention; also when my bestie bitch makes coffee for me when i am working from home at her house. This one is dedicated for you Demi. Done.
The universe will keep handing you the same lessons, same failures, the same relationships, the same type of love and the same type of pain until you realise that the common denominator is you.
Until you are finally tired of your own patterns. Until you finally love yourself enough to raise your standards and believe you are worthy of holding them.
You see the thing is, until you learn to love yourself more, you will continue to accept the love that mirrors how you truly feel about yourself. The answer to everything you desire is within you.
Desires must help you become a better you. Now relax. You’ll end up where you’re supposed to be. Choose consistent truthful people to vibe & shine. Be picky. You glow differently when you have good people with good intentions in your life. (Not my words).
Just always be the better person. And make your intentions pure. What and who you are is what will be remembered. Pain is inevitable and it will always exist, but if you focus on understanding what you are and what you are feeling, and why you are feeling it, you will overcome it.
The expectations we have often do not correspond with reality, we are disappointed every time this happens. We become disappointed when we expect to be treated as we treat others. When you start to realize that everyone is living at a different stage, thinking differently and making their choices, then you can only accept the fact that people do not share the same mind and heart. When you want to be happy you have to let go of that and start with yourself, be the person you can be proud of, be an example, show respect and understanding. Others may not change, but know that it is not up to you and be proud of how you are. You’ve got so much soul to be handled by someone who has never been passionate. Be a better you first. Life is fun, let it be.