1: Work 9 to 5. Get married in their late 30s. Make 2-3 kids. Return home tired after work. Expect wife to cook, clean, wash clothes & raise kids. Watch TV at night. Get 5 blowjobs in a month. Wait for weekend to go grocery shopping. Sleep like a 80 year old at 11pm. They get mad at their family or wife to relieve the stress of work. These people pretend being happy their whole life till they retire or till they end up being broke.
2: Who has a fire in them. Who have an eventful life. Who have more stories to tell their next generation. Who build legacies. Who dedicate quality time to family & passion. Work is a priority, because it’s their choice. Who dare to love because they love their life first & there’s no negotiation in writing a beautiful love story which can build memories. Who don’t wait for weekend & who value knowledge. Basically those who LIVE.
I can’t judge 1 or 2. Do what works for you. But the first lesson of life is to LOVE YOURSELF. Nobody is born perfect. When you love yourself, you glow from the inside. You attract people who love, respect, and appreciate your energy. Everything starts with and how you feel about yourself. Start feeling worthy, valuable and deserving of receiving the best that life has to offer. PART OF BEING A MAN IS LEARNING TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR SUCCESSES AND FOR YOUR FAILURES. YOU CAN’T GO BLAMING OTHERS OR BEING JEALOUS. FEEING SOMEBODY ELSE’S SUCCESS AS YOUR FAILURE IS A CANCEROUS WAY TO LIVE. BE HUMBLE, KIND & MAGNETIC. (Not my words).
Avoid people who mess with your head. Avoid people who intentionally and repeatedly do and say things that they know upset you. Avoid people who expect you to prioritize them but refuse to prioritize you. Avoid people who can’t and won’t apologize sincerely. Avoid inconsistent approach & disrespect.
It’s during the toughest times of your life that you’ll get to see the true colors of the people who say they care about you. Notice who sticks around and who doesn’t, and be grateful to those who leave you, for they have given you the room to grow in the space they abandoned, and the awareness to appreciate the people who loved you when you didn’t feel lovable.
Bottom line: Be OK with giving the gift of your absence to those who do not appreciate and respect your presence.
Work hard but don’t let work take over your life. That way you will lose yourself. Love, but love for the right reasons. Life is too short for anything mediocre. Know who you are and know that you are worthy of reaching your dreams and that it is never too late to start creating that life you have always dreamed of. Do not compare yourself to others, that’s just deadly. No two souls are the same. You are your own person, you are beautiful, and you are unique. Put your trust in the universe. Some things are just meant to happen, and some are not.
Let go of whatever is stealing your happiness, it’s hard but it is worth it. Embrace change. Embrace life. Everything happens for a reason. Sometimes you just need to breathe, trust and let go. FIND BALANCE IN YOUR LIFE. (Not my words).
Here’s the thing about people with good hearts. They give you excuses when you don’t explain yourself. They accept apologies you don’t give. They see the best in you when you don’t need them to. At your worst, they lift you up, even if it means putting their priorities aside. The word “busy” does not exist in their dictionary. They make time, even when you don’t. And you wonder why they’re the most sensitive people. You wonder why they’re the most caring people. You wonder why they are willing to give so much of themselves with no expectation in return. You wonder why their existence is not so essential to your well-being. It’s because they don’t make you work hard for the attention they give you. They accept the love they think they’ve earned, and you accept the love you think you’re entitled to.
Let me tell you something; Fear the day when a good heart gives up on you. Our skies don’t become gray out of nowhere. Our sunshine does not allow the darkness to take over for no reason. A heart does not turn cold unless it’s been treated with coldness for a while. (Not my words)
Someone can be madly in love with you and still not be ready. Someday that “I LOVE YOU” will fall short. They can love you in a way you have never been loved before and still not join you on the bridge. And whatever their reasons, you must leave. Because you never ever have to inspire anyone to meet you on the bridge. You never ever have to convince someone to do the work to be ready. There is more extraordinary love, more love that you have never seen, out here in this wide and wild universe. And there is that love who’s out there somewhere worth of a stable relationship. (Borrowed paragraph from a previous post)
Relationships aren’t hard, It’s people who are inconsistent and lazy to put time and effort. We all want growth in every aspect of life while expecting to grow stronger together in a relationship. If your relationship isn’t helping you become a better version of yourself, then you are in a wrong relationship.
The most basic human tendency is to keep seeking a better tomorrow. Personal growth is the major priority, a journey to achieve joyful living. Life is fun, let it be.
I am yet to reach 30s & i can say one thing from my observation & experience; “People who aren’t successful/happy with their life, always find reasons to justify their lie/cheat/nonsense/inconsistency every single time with the easiest predictable way”.
Now why i focus on these two words “SUCCESS” & “HAPPINESS” in most of my posts? My answer is; A successful person is more focused on his success rather than rest garbage of life. I am saying it for a relationship as well. Even research studies show successful people hardly cheat in a relationship because they have better things to achieve in life.
So what goes wrong here; when you aren’t happy with yourself or when you aren’t successful in your career/finance/your own goals/dreams, even you don’t know what HAPPINESS means to you. You swing every possible way without next thought in search of that happiness to every wrong place. Nobody can bring happiness to your life. We humans are engineered to like predictable things, i mean a predictable tomorrow with what’s gonna happen, what lifestyle we gonna enjoy, what house we gonna live, what will be our next vacation, what will be our next vehicle, all such things. In modern world most dream big, but sadly it’s daydreaming. Big dreams bring sadness when you see them fading away. It’s your responsibility to sort out your own life first.
Find your peace within yourself. Find your happiness within yourself. Find what “SUCCESS” means to you within yourself. A stable YOU is the priority, rest can join later.
You’re going to realize it one day that happiness was never about your job or your degree or being in a relationship. Happiness was never about following in the footsteps of all of those who came before you; it was never about being like the others. One day, you’re going to see it-that happiness was always about the discovery, the hope, the listening to your heart and following it wherever it chose to go. Happiness was always about being kinder to yourself; it was always about embracing the person you were becoming. One day, you will understand that happiness was always about learning how to live with yourself, that your happiness was never in the hands of others.
Happiness was always about you, it will always be about you.
How many of you struggle to say NO? If you’re one like that, you probably have the tendency to want to make other people happy even at your own expense. For most of us, saying NO is a real challenge. We humans are naturally caring. Our personality often makes us feel like it’s our job to take care of other people’s needs and saying NO can feel like a personal failure. In such moment, we are more than happy to make sacrifices for others. However once our energy drains with a sense of overwhelm, they lead us to regret.
First prioritize self care before thinking about other person’s wellbeing or pain. Keep things simple & real. Life is fun, let it be.