When you live with unforgiveness in your heart, you become debilitated, unable to move and show up in the world in the way that you were created to all because, you took on the spirit of offense and chose not to forgive.
So, you see while at times, you may feel like it’s your right to hold offense and not forgive and while you do have free will you must also understand that what you felt was a “right” will also be the very thing that strips you of your ability to live in freedom. And, so in your quest to experience justice, you’ll only instigate the greater injustice against yourself, your we being, and your future.
Know this: FORGIVENESS IS POWERFUL. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. It liberates you from offense, from bitterness, and from the negative spirits that will invade your heart, soul, and mind and prohibit you from being a source of light in the world. So, forgive even when it’s hard, even when the person across the table is undeserving.
(This paragraph got nothing to do with the post above. I am still a part-time employee because of my student status & business interests. Workplace environment gets messy when somebody sends a package without mentioning employee ID, especially when we all are working from home since the beginning of this pandemic. It’s tough to explain further. Please don’t send gifts to my office address.)
I may regret many things: Decisions I made. Decisions I didn’t make. Feelings I expressed. Feelings I suppressed. People I loved. People I rejected. People I respected. People I neglected. People I listened to. People I confided in. Promises I made. Promises I believed. Questions I asked. Answers I gave. Words I said. Words I didn’t say.
At the end reflecting is essential, but regret should not ground you in the past. It should make you grateful that you have a conscious mind that realizes what is right and wrong. It should give you strength to wisely use your present to make your future better. It should free you. If you don’t stop judging yourself, putting yourself down, believing that this is as good as you can be, then you’ve closed doors for yourself before they even appear in front of you. You’ve become a slave of your past & you aren’t allowed to. Don’t expect to be who you want to be without being true to yourself and believing in yourself. If you don’t believe in yourself, don’t expect anyone to believe in you. If you don’t see the best in yourself, don’t expect anyone to see the best in you. When you close a door; do you expect back and stare at it and say, “I can’t leave because this door is still closed in front of me”? Think about it. Take small steps consistently, but with good vibe & high energy. Be True to Yourself.
Dead people receive more flowers than living ones, because regret is stronger than gratitude.
– Anne Frank.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Few days back i saw Canada experiencing 50°c weather which boiled a billion shellfish alive near shore & now 120 people died in Western Europe flood, all caused by CLIMATE CHANGE. This kind of unexpected heavy rainfall is possible due to mixture of the hot air escaping our environment & cold humid air up there. The sad part is; some dumbfucks & a group of politicians will still not understand this issue. My heart goes out to those who lost their loved ones & who are still in search of their families in such situations. PEACE.)
Here is a fact nobody wants you to know: you don’t need anybody, you just don’t.
I have seen people wreck themselves on the bedposts of lovers who don’t remember to call them. I’ve seen them come home with bruises, tell me it was in the name of feeling wanted, tell themselves this is the best they could have gotten. I’ve seen people ruin their brains on sharp teeth and harsh words, lovers who sink in their claws and toy with emotions. I’ve seem them lie in bed and refuse to start crying, tell me it was in the hopes of exchanging last names, tell themselves they want this forever and not that they just can’t escape.
Just stop, you got yourself here. You’re not going to crumble, you’re not. You’ve been carrying your own body weight since you were old enough to walk. Yours are the shoulders that have held up this world. You already have the strength within you. You’ve already made it this far, you can make it through. Don’t assign that power to anyone else. That spark rightfully belongs to you. Own yourself. (Not my words.)
Be the person who cares. Be the person who makes the effort. Be the person who loves without hesitation. Be the person who bares it all. Be the person who never shies away from the depth of their feeling or the intensity of their hope. Be the person who believes in the softness of the world, in the goodness of other people, in the beauty of being open and untethered and trusting. Be the person who takes the chance. Be the person who refuses to hide. Be the person who makes people feel seen. Be the person who shows up.
Trust me when I say “person who cares”. Because the world doesn’t need any more carelessness, any more disregard; because there is nothing stronger than someone who continues to stay soft in a world that hasn’t always been kind to them. Be known for your KINDNESS & GRACE.
Here’s the thing about people with good hearts. They give you excuses when you don’t explain yourself. They accept apologies you don’t give. They see the best in you when you don’t need them to. At your worst, they lift you up, even if it means putting their priorities aside. The word “busy” does not exist in their dictionary. They make time, even when you don’t. And you wonder why they’re the most sensitive people. You wonder why they’re the most caring people. You wonder why they are willing to give so much of themselves with no expectation in return. You wonder why their existence is not so essential to your well-being. It’s because they don’t make you work hard for the attention they give you. They accept the love they think they’ve earned, and you accept the love you think you’re entitled to.
Let me tell you something; Fear the day when a good heart gives up on you. Our skies don’t become gray out of nowhere. Our sunshine does not allow the darkness to take over for no reason. A heart does not turn cold unless it’s been treated with coldness for a while. (Not my words)