Your life will pass one way or another. The events that will unfold are the events that will unfold. You will meet amazing people who you are meant to. You will find the opportunities you need. You will desire what you want. The choice is not what you experience, but how. How is everything. How is golden. How closes doors and it opens them. How creates something out of nothing.
It is not the years we live, but HOW we live them. It is not who we cross paths with, but how we love them & appreciate them. It is not what we are given or not, but how we take what’s in front of us and turn it into all we ever needed it to be. It is how we experience life, day in and day out, in the quietest moments and biggest ways. The HOW is the way.
1. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present. 2. What others think of you is none of your business. 3. Time heals almost everything, give it time. 4. Don’t compare your life to others and don’t judge them. You have no idea what their journey is all about. 5. Stop thinking too much, it’s alright not to know the answers. Answers will come to you when you least expect it. 6. No one is in charge of your happiness, except you. 7. Smile. You don’t own all the problems in the world. 8. Understand the difference between WANT & NEED. Follow what you feel.
Keep looking. Not for a person, but for your passion, your love, your courage, your goals, your dreams, your happiness, yourself. Keep looking. Explore your life before you explore another. Know your worth, know yourself. Only then, you will know what you need over what you want. You need yourself to become your own. Key to your future happy life is in your hands.
Life keeps leading us on journeys we would never go on if it were up to us. Don’t be afraid. Have faith. Find the lessons. Life is fun, let it be.
People never understand “what you want to do” is always connected to “what you need to do”.
Suppose i want to be an engineer, i need to study engineering. Suppose i want to a writer/musician/athlete, i need to learn & practice writing/music/sports. Suppose i want to get fit, i need to workout.
What you want to do doesn’t make any sense till you aren’t following what you need to do first. This is the major reason most people stay unhappy & blame others for their failures. This one tiny mindset change can drastically evolve your life in a year.
NEEDS FIRST, WANTS NEXT.
(This movie trailer got nothing to do with the post above. My first real full-time job was software developer before i switched to data analytics field. I know where we are heading with time, our world isn’t going bad as this trailer shows. But the way technology is advancing, who knows what’s coming after hundred years!! Anyways, there are no boundaries for imagination.)
I love people who aren’t afraid to be their own weird and wonderfully imperfect self. These people make people happy, these people are so rare and special. We need more people like this in the world, and that’s why you shouldn’t ever wish to be anybody but your weird and wonderfully imperfect self.
Few ways you can express how you feel towards someone;
1. I love you. 2. I need you. 3. I want you. 4. I want to be with you. 5. I don’t want to be without you. 6. I can’t live without you. 7. I miss you.
NEED, needs can be met somewhere else & being needy means being weak as well. LOVE, this word is highly misused by people & especially someone like me needs a year to trust after a year of healing. WANT is my favourite & number-3 is my pick out of all these 7. WANT is that animalistic desire inside. Which means i know i have few suitors/options, but who cares because it’s you and just you that i WANT for myself. In case you love someone, remind them constantly & consistently that YOU WANT THEM.
Last time someone said “I WANT YOU” to me was on my birthday. I haven’t replied that till now. Never rushed towards anyone. Never allowed anyone to rush towards me either. The simple reason is; “If someone is investing their time & energy on me, that person deserves a whole TAP”. I am that kind of a person who hides nothing. My only secrets are my bank account/credit card pin or my email/social media account passwords. And right now, i am still in that phase of healing i mentioned above.
Whenever i say “LIONESS” in my posts, it’s my appreciation to that person who understands where i am coming from & why. Appreciated for picking/dropping me at airport. Appreciated for taking me out to my favourite brunch. Appreciated for buying me a pair of white vans kicks after watching squid games. Appreciated for helping me with carwash. Appreciated for typing my thesis. Very few people come with a clean heart & no stupid outlandish expectations. So LIONESS, Like your favourite alphabet is T, my favourite word is “APPRECIATION”. Rest all are a LEO-LEO thing i guess.😜 Every relationship of your life is a major investment of time & energy. Take your sweet time, that says all about who’s who.
Neglect is abusive. Ignoring a person and not caring about who they are, what they want, what they need, is like telling them, they are not important, over and over again. Some narcissistic toxic people use NEGLECT to make you feel insignificant and unworthy.