Don’t settle for nice, for pleasant, for familiar. Keep looking until you find something that really moves you, that resonates with your core. And I mean this for people, for interests, for hobbies, for your possessions, clothes, music, books, art and everything.
Curate every aspect of your life, as much as you can. It’s in the things that deeply inspire us that we find ourselves. Surround yourself with truth, and you’ll have built yourself a heaven. You can have your heaven on earth. (Not my words).
You are the books you read, the films you watch, the music you listen to, the people you meet, the kind of friends you have, the work you do, the dreams you have, the conversations you engage in, the way you respond & react.
You are what you take from these. You are the sound of the ocean, the breath of fresh air, the brightest light and the darkest corner.
You are a collective of every experience you have had in your life. You are every single day. So drown yourself in a sea of knowledge, experience and existence. Let the words run through your veins and let the colours fill your mind. Be a real you.
Let me shine light on this issue of “SMARTPHONE ADDICTION”. Just ask yourself “how many of you are starting and ending the day on your phone!!”. Most people are inseparable from their phones. Sometimes this type of connection can be more harmful than helpful, especially at the beginning and end of your day. It’s easy to form the habit of picking up your phone when you wake up and end the day scrolling. Many people even charge their phones right next to their beds.
But here the problem is emails, to do lists, social media feeds, games and everything else is just creating a barrage of distractions and ideas that cloud your mind creating no good outcome. For the sake of your mental well-being at least try to minimize technology as you start and end your day.
The reason i don’t understand GOSSIP, Gossiping for attention & telling stories can make you appear smarter and more engaging, it may even help you feel accepted in a social group. But gossiping always backfires in the long run.
Spreading gossip is only a short-term solution to elicit approval and although people may enjoy here and there to gossip, later they tend to dislike those who spread it. It reveals that she/he may be untrustworthy or judgmental after all if you talk about others behind their back, what’s to stop you from gossiping about anyone in your life including the people you gossip to. People are temporary & gossiping is cheap. Learn to learn something new to keep yourself exciting, young & happy.
Once in a while one friend or another asks me this question: “Tap, what you do when you are stressed!!?”.
OK. This one has two solutions for me; 1. Figure out who/what caused stress & kill that reason behind it silently. 2. Lift weights, do some 200 push-ups, look at my imperfect 5-pack abs in mirror, talk to my PhD research associates to figure out who is running ahead of me, login to my amazon seller portal to see how many boxes of whey protein we sold today, then have a pint of my favourite low calorie sugarfree ice cream in sea salt caramel flavour while watching Tom and Jerry.
Two easy ways actually. Most of the time i prefer the 2nd one because murder is still illegal. In case i get the opportunity to kill someone without getting punished, i would love to kill my bestie bitch by leaving her inside a huge bucket in any snowy swedish village during 2070 winter. If you are one of my close friends, you already know i am a simple stupid sober sassy person who is unaware of all emotional melodramas. Nobody is big enough to hurt me or give me stress. The worst things a human can do is; LIE. Every liar falls in line with every negative prediction. And i bet, after a while they seem fun & funny because of their repetitive pattern of lying. Fuck fake goodness. Tappie loves real people with clean intentions & bad will always work if it’s real.
It’s so important to prioritize your well-being and devote time to yourself. People often take advantage of you. Every person’s superpower is intuition. Very few tend to have accurate gut reactions to others and this helps shield them and their loved ones from those who are dishonest and ill intentions.
With that said, all applicable towards people with an empathetic heart. Yet an empath’s intuition can’t protect them from everything. They can still fall prey to deception, narcissism and toxicity. So be mindful of people who try to take advantage of your compassionate empathetic and kind nature.
During my engineering college days I was part of a group with all electronic & rap music enthusiasts. We all planned to form a band together, because that time was all about boy bands or music groups like black eyed peas, linkin park, back street boys, pussycat dolls. There were two lead guitar players in our group, sometimes i still see EMY from electrical engineering branch playing drum, i was good at playing piano/electric keyboard/launchpad, there were two singers with high pitch vocals & it was an amazing combination of 6 young energetic people. The best part is we all failed together in becoming a band. I loved the failure part of it, because we weren’t something unique or better for the same reason. Studying engineering is a tough journey on it’s own, we didn’t put enough time into our music.
Most of the time i see young people peep into an idea which is more like lust towards Money or Fame that they don’t deserve. Today i am talking about something called “Group goals”. I am saying it out of observation & experience. Whenever someone says “I am planning to do something different with friends or in a group, let me assure you that amazing nonsense will never materialize to real world“.
We don’t see the same dream with 5 others. If you aren’t habituated to walk alone towards your GOALS, your GOAL is nothing but a daydream.
LOVE is LOVE when you find someone worth of you & you become worthy of them, just one person is your target. Eyes on the prize and get it.
In relationships, CHEATERS are those who can’t change themselves for the better but they keep on changing their same shitty cycle of relationship from one person to another person without guilt till Karma gets them. I just feel pity over these kinda morons who pick between two/three to enter or exit a relationship. That’s how these triangles, cheating & rest heartbreak bullshits come to play. And there is a big market of HEARTBREAK related nonsense, especially in music industry. No matter what happens to life, stay away from this market.