People never understand “what you want to do” is always connected to “what you need to do”.
Suppose i want to be an engineer, i need to study engineering. Suppose i want to a writer/musician/athlete, i need to learn & practice writing/music/sports. Suppose i want to get fit, i need to workout.
What you want to do doesn’t make any sense till you aren’t following what you need to do first. This is the major reason most people stay unhappy & blame others for their failures. This one tiny mindset change can drastically evolve your life in a year.
NEEDS FIRST, WANTS NEXT.
(This movie trailer got nothing to do with the post above. My first real full-time job was software developer before i switched to data analytics field. I know where we are heading with time, our world isn’t going bad as this trailer shows. But the way technology is advancing, who knows what’s coming after hundred years!! Anyways, there are no boundaries for imagination.)
The attitude of “that’s just how I am, take it or leave it” is still a sign of immaturity. As an adult, it’s your responsibility to figure out which of your traits are toxic and are negatively impactful towards other people and the ones you love, and to eventually learn how to fix them.
At some point, we all gotta start making ourselves better individuals. If you truly believe you don’t have to change anything about yourself, even at the very least the worst in you, and that people will just have to deal with it. Then sorry, you’re still a child.
People need to learn that their actions do affect other people. So be careful what you say and do, it’s not always just about you. MATURITY DOESN’T MEAN AGE. IT MEANS SENSITIVITY, MANNERS AND HOW YOU REACT.
We all have shit days every now and then. All of us. No matter how perfect we aspire to be, and no matter how many things we promised ourselves we would do, sometimes all the things we wanted to achieve just can’t happen in one day and that is perfectly okay. That’s called being realistic. So your day was shit, well pick yourself right back up – chances are you achieved more than you think you did and you’re just being hard on yourself. Am I right? I think I am. Today was a bit of a fail. Oh well, that happens. Tomorrow is a new day. Get that chin up. You are a work in progress. Don’t be afraid to fail. Your mindset is your most under-valued asset.
(This paragraph got nothing to do with the post above. I appreciate those who sent BIRTHDAY WISHES in LinkedIn, Instagram/Twitter DMs, iMessage, Whatsapp & few e-mails as well. I thank my bank, insurance provider, credit card company, my employer & some brands for sending cakes/chocolates/cards/gifts. The fun part is; there’s a tiny mistake in my date of birth. My birthday is not 3-July, it’s actually 30-July. Only my family & close friends know the entire story. GOOD VIBES BACK TO ALL.)😜
Most people believe in this “MEANT TO HAPPEN” bullshit, which is hilarious to my late 20 brain. I can’t connect with this mindset. GOD has given you this life, of course he has figured out your two-three times food in a day, air, water & clothes. God wants you to survive. But that’s not “MEANT TO HAPPEN”. Is that enough?
Ask yourself what kind of life you wanna live, then “MAKE IT HAPPEN”. I am a strong believer in this “MAKE IT HAPPEN” mindset. Go slow if you can, one step at a time. The longer it takes to build, the harder it is to break. Good thing comes to those who work towards it. At the end it’s all about your EFFORT & ATTITUDE.
Most people have a misconception that “Routine is making me bored, repetitive & lazy”. When you think of comfort you might imagine a cozy warm space with blankets and a hot drink, its pleasant for sure. But Comfort is double-edged sword that typically results in the consequences of contentment boredom and laziness. Routines can help give structure to your life and your nightly netflix chill ritual might be satisfying but your habits could also be holding you back from opening up in discovering your hidden talents.
When you trap yourself in your comfort zone for too long, you’ll transform into a zombie, a mere cog in the machine without meaning or fulfillment in life. When you lose your drive to learn to do and to achieve, you lose the ability to create meaning in your life and while it’s nice to feel comfortable, it often leads to wasted potential.
Most of us humans suffer from something called “Black and white thinking” also known as polarized thinking. This is an all-or-nothing mindset that things happen either all the way or not at all. When extremes become the norm, you’ll start to think that there are only two outcomes to any situations wild success or terrible failure.
You might start to believe that people are either all good or all bad or that they must be either a loyal friend or an enemy. This cognitive distortion is completely unrealistic. It erases all gray areas or spectrums and leads you to believe things that are often untrue. Reality doesn’t exist in extremes and seeing it like that is unfair to yourself and others.
I don’t believe in partnerships, strictly talking about work & money/business. Whatever i own in life fully belongs to me & this will never change. That’s the reason i hate unenthusiastic people who think everything will be served on plate without putting enough efforts. Again that’s the only differentiator of what kinda HUMAN BEING you are, what’s your actions towards what you want to achieve!!
If you truly want to achieve something, work your way out & stay away from those who can’t bring their A-game to the table. Unenthusiastic people are toxic for your growth.