You’ve got to ask yourself, what you’re living for, who you’re living for, and if none of those answers begin with “YOU”, then you’re living your life wrong. You’re living a lie.
Everything you do should revolve around you. Every person, every place, every moment, should start and end with you.
This is your LIFE and you shouldn’t spend it on dull things or boring people. Don’t spend it in people who don’t understand the type of love you carry within your bones. Because you only live once and it’s your job to make it count. So let everyday be yours, own it. Never apologize for being who you are. Your authenticity is the only source of a consistent delightful life.
Suddenly social media has created so many experts who brag about their success stories. Most of these only talk about their success. Half of these dumbfucks have little to nothing success in their field, rest half are just scammers.
Genuine people who made it big will never sell their recipe to success. Because it’s personal. My journey with my relationships, friendships, religion, finance & career, all are personal to me. I may give tips to my son one day, but why will i tell some random person to follow my steps & make it happen, if i already made it so far walking on my own!!? Nobody helped me become what i wanted to be. The journey wasn’t smooth sailing. And i also know nobody will put similar effort to be where i am.
Ask Elon Musk how he got into Tesla without founding it & how it’s the world’s highest valued automobile manufacturing company in stock market while making only 0.13% of cars in this world!!? Will he ever tell you in a while how that happened? It’s consistent rigorous efforts of time & discipline, that’s paying off right now.
Stop selling success stories. Now we live in a world where people first need to know what they shouldn’t do. I want more people to talk about setbacks. Failures & struggles are fun too. I don’t know why people avoid that part! If you can’t enjoy the struggle, you don’t deserve the SUCCESS.
Stop discounting your successes. Start affirming them instead. Don’t say “Oh, it’s nothing” or “Everyone could do that”. Treat and talk to yourself as you would to a good friend.
Develop a positive attitude and choose to get your mind off the negatives. For example, write down three things that went well each day, and three separate things that you are thankful for.
Work on your appearance. Make an effort to look good, that doesn’t always have to cost the earth. Wear bold colour bottom & light colour t-shirt/shirt/top. Invest your little time in personal hygiene & skincare. Understand the importance of a nice perfume. Eat clean & workout frequently. You know the drill. That’s gonna make you feel much more happier and confident.
Don’t be a doormat or just follow the crowd. Think about your needs and what you want from life.
Be willing to take risks or calculated risks for god’s sake. If you don’t take a risk, then nothing’s going to change. And you’ll be stuck in a rut going nowhere in life.
The secret to self-confidence isn’t to stop caring what people think, it’s to start caring about what you think. It’s to make your opinion of you more important than anyone else’s. Confidence makes us beautiful and it comes from accepting yourself. The moment you accept yourself, it makes everything better.