In our lives we experience many different kinds of friendships. On the rare occasion we encounter someone so special that we just know we met for a reason. These are the kinds of friendships that last forever no matter what city you live in or how often you speak, no matter how old you get or what phase of life you are in. It’s the type friendship that has no judgement and sticks by you even when you fuck up. It’s the kind of friendship that makes you understand unconditional love. Maybe you met your most special friend when you were 4, or 14, or 35… or maybe you are yet to cross paths. It happens at different stages for different people. But when it does, there is no greater comfort than knowing that this person will be right there beside you to share the happiness, the sadness and everything in-between. Never, ever take these friendships for granted. (Not my words).
This paragraph is for my close friends. Yes i have a secret Instagram account since a month, it’s more like my travel timeline diary. Hardly 8-9 close friends know about it. Ask each other, let’s see who spills the bean first. I post few pics when i go to a new place, flight window seat view, some islands, coffee, the best pizza in town, my sneakers, it’s a raw me with privacy in focus. I hardly have 20 followers & i get 20-30 likes in each post. Recent 30 posts have likes or comments from 1 or 2 blue tick verified accounts. NOW THE TASK; My only rule to achieve something is; I allow myself 2 years to get it done or I just leave it like it didn’t exist. I was planning something big in 2019 for 3-4 months. Corona happened, i had to take a pause. I am already 3-4 months short of those 2 years. Go to that secret Instagram account, figure out what’s that i was working in 2019? Those blue tick accounts have a pattern. Once you have an idea about the answer, text me the title of it. The first person who gets it right, your expenses for our weekend trip & next vacation is on me. (Demi my bestie bitch, prize not for you. You know my credit card pin as well & I hate you.😋)
Forgive yourself for the desires you judged harshly. Forgive yourself for indulging in things that took up your time but didn’t fulfill you. Forgive yourself for declaring yourself as someone you’re not. Forgive yourself for your chosen avenues of negative expression. Forgive yourself for all the times you didn’t add value to others. Forgive yourself for what you discovered about yourself that you didn’t like. Forgive yourself for whatever ugliness you saw in yourself. Forgive yourself for not correcting what you think you should have. Forgive yourself for the parts you couldn’t respect. Forgive yourself for all these judgements. Forgive yourself for not being able to forgive yourself before. Forgive yourself for how you chose to survive. Foregiveness is making a conscious decision to live in the present, even if the past still hurts.
(This paragraph got nothing to do with the post above. Everything that’s real takes longer to build, the longer it stands & the longer it takes to break. Chrissi you dumb girl, keep on forgiving TAP. I can’t accept your gift till next year. Let me fix myself first, right now i am the wrong one. Doors to my house are open for my people every Saturday, please join. Love outta respect. Truth is trust.)
It’s so easy to walk by people and make judgments about who they are based on some small passing detail or flaw that you’ve observed. Maybe their attitude appears to be rude. Maybe they aren’t as outgoing as you are. Either way, without taking the time to actually get to know someone and hear what they’ve been through, you really have no right to judge anyone.
The things we observe superficially are just that; they are false impressions that don’t tell you anything about what others have actually experienced. Take the time to really get to know people, ask them what their story is, and be a good listener. That’s why there’s a saying; “NEVER JUDGE A BOOK BY IT’S COVER”.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Big fan of SNL. Shared outta fun.)
1. The past can’t be changed. 2. Opinions don’t define your reality. 3. Everyone’s journey is different. 4. Judgements are not about you. 5. Overthinking will lead to sadness. 6. Happiness is found within. 7. Your thoughts affect your mood. 8. Smiles are contagious & Kindness is free. 9. It’s okay to let go and move on. 10. What goes around, comes around. 11. Things always get better with time.
You can’t let people scare you. You can’t go your whole life trying to please everyone else. You can’t go through life worried about what everyone else is going to think. Whether it’s your hair, clothes, what you have to say, how you feel, what you believe and what you have, you can’t let the judgment of others stop you from being you. Because if you do, you’re no longer you. You’re someone everyone else wants you to be. It’s just a waste of your precious time because you aren’t getting this life again.
DO WHAT YOUR HEART DESIRES & HEAD PERMITS. BE YOURSELF.