Sometimes my white friends want to know to whom i am saying “RAM RAM” over phone instead of starting a conversation with a simple HELLO!! Today is the right day to answer this. This has something to do with my values, upbringing, religion, morals, childhood & my grandpa’s bedtime stories because my both parents were working. I am not a strong believer in religion the way people portray now a days. But i believe in your beliefs. I believe there’s GOD, a positive divine power guiding us from somewhere. If you are productive, truthful, consistent with what you do from a clean heart, kind or humble towards other human, all of these acts are filled with godly goodness. I am born Hindu, and i believe i am a practicing Hindu. My religion teaches there are multiple forms of GOD, and there are multiple pathways to heaven, so all religions must be treated with equal amounts of respect & acceptance.
Let’s get back to my answer. Before some thousands of years there used to be a King named “Lord Ram”, incarnation of god significant to Hinduism. Some circumstances forced him to stay away from his family & palace. He lived in forest for 14 years like a normal human leaving his royalty aside. During those 14 years, he fought some demons, saved his wife & kingdom after killing a 10 headed monster named Ravan. Those 10 heads represent lust, anger, delusion, greed, pride, envy, mind, intellect, will and the ego. Ravan is the example how certain negative traits can downsize good qualities & the world remembers him as a MONSTER today. Today is the date “LORD RAM” killed Ravan & “godess DURGA” killed mahishasur, this day symbolises victory of good over evil & we celebrate it as DUSSEHRA. HAPPY DUSSEHRA TO EVERYONE WHETHER YOU ARE CELEBRATING OR NOT.
After killing Ravan, Lord Ram returned back to rule his kingdom. Under his kingdom, there was no place for any criminal or derogatory behaviour. He established a standard for men to be truthful, faithful, kind, loyal & brave. Till the day he ruled, every human being enjoyed equal amounts of respect & happiness. So when a Hindu says “RAM RAM”, Ram is the goodness/god inside you/your soul. One Ram is for you & other one for me. The meaning behind it is; “WE ARE EXCHANGING EQUAL AMOUNTS OF RESPECT AS HUMANS WITH A HOPE TO SEE A WORLD LIKE LORD RAM’S KINGDOM WHERE EVERYONE IS HAPPY & TREATED EQUALLY”.
You deserve the affection that you kept trying to pour into others. You deserve the same motivation that you tried to inspire in others. You deserve the high of happy, without the low of sadness. You deserve the joy of being spoiled, without the catch of having to repay. You deserve the relaxation of trust, without the paranoia of betrayal. You deserve to be confident, without the reminder to be humble. You deserve to look at your reflection with eyes of awe, not judgment. You deserve to be held forever, not for a night. You deserve to be first, second, and third. You deserve to have everything you want. You deserve this power. It is who you are and who you will always be. BE YOU FOR THE SAKE OF YOURSELF. VIBE WITH YOUR TRIBE.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. 20 rules for young men, i guess it’s a must watch for everyone irrespective of gender.)
A sense of humour. A taste for adventure. A healthy glow. Openness. Kindness. Confidence. Humility. Humble behaviour. Truthful communication. Appetite for success. Hunger to learn. Intuition. Smartass comebacks. Presence. And a consistent approach with every word you just read.
Because you can fake something only for a timeframe. If it’s true, it’s consistent. And consistent has no time limit.
1: Work 9 to 5. Get married in their late 30s. Make 2-3 kids. Return home tired after work. Expect wife to cook, clean, wash clothes & raise kids. Watch TV at night. Get 5 blowjobs in a month. Wait for weekend to go grocery shopping. Sleep like a 80 year old at 11pm. They get mad at their family or wife to relieve the stress of work. These people pretend being happy their whole life till they retire or till they end up being broke.
2: Who has a fire in them. Who have an eventful life. Who have more stories to tell their next generation. Who build legacies. Who dedicate quality time to family & passion. Work is a priority, because it’s their choice. Who dare to love because they love their life first & there’s no negotiation in writing a beautiful love story which can build memories. Who don’t wait for weekend & who value knowledge. Basically those who LIVE.
I can’t judge 1 or 2. Do what works for you. But the first lesson of life is to LOVE YOURSELF. Nobody is born perfect. When you love yourself, you glow from the inside. You attract people who love, respect, and appreciate your energy. Everything starts with and how you feel about yourself. Start feeling worthy, valuable and deserving of receiving the best that life has to offer. PART OF BEING A MAN IS LEARNING TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR SUCCESSES AND FOR YOUR FAILURES. YOU CAN’T GO BLAMING OTHERS OR BEING JEALOUS. FEEING SOMEBODY ELSE’S SUCCESS AS YOUR FAILURE IS A CANCEROUS WAY TO LIVE. BE HUMBLE, KIND & MAGNETIC. (Not my words).
Date the one who cares with her whole head & heart. Date her if you can see yourself going for a drive while blasting throwbacks and screaming crazy every word of that track without being judged. Date her if you can see yourself at 4 in morning talking about life, goals and all of your passions. Date her if you can have fun with her but still crawl back into her arms when you really want/need to. Date her if she is humble but makes you feel confident and hypes you up. Date her if she can make you feel spoiled without any gifts or anything materialistic. Date her if she opens the door for you before leaving for work and never lets you leave without kissing you goodbye. Don’t date because she calls you baby/boo or if she says she cares about you but just asks for money & timeouts. Don’t date her if she talks badly about you to her friends or doesn’t defend you if they talk trash about you. Don’t date her because things may get better someday. You are living in present, efforts are needed right now.
If the person who’s reading this post is TAP; Don’t date her if she believes in ketchup, orange juice, vegan diet & naturally aspirated V12. SORRY DEMI.🤪
In this journey of life, we always come accross new people. Some become friends, some turn out to be romantic equations. And yes people put efforts to get things going. They put efforts, but they put efforts for a while. And that’s the fuck up. Humans don’t understand this one tiny thing; “You have to keep working on it forever to have a relationship/equation forever which yields happiness forever”.
Your life isn’t an AEROPLANE and RELATIONSHIPS don’t run on AUTOPILOT. (Said by DADDY TAP i guess).😜
Be a walking contradiction. Be strong and soft. Be deep and lighthearted. Be beautiful and intelligent. Be confident and humble. Be someone with a quick wit and a cheap sense of humor. Be content climbing a mountain and enjoying the sweetness of doing nothing.
The world may try and classify you as one thing because that is far easier to understand than a person who has a little bit everything in them. And you may feel misunderstood for a while, but just remember your people can only find you if you’re brave enough to be yourself. There are parts of you that you have yet to discover. There is greater love that you have yet to find. There experiences that are are far beyond your imagination. And it’s all waiting for you. Life is waiting for you. So set aside your expectations and go explore it. Life is fun, let it be. (Not my words)
Being observant is fun, once in a while just enjoy sitting back. Just observing everything around you, crazy pretensious people, the constant postings on social media, the scandals and disrespectful behavior of actors/politicians/government officials, all may split you off because there is more to life. So just take a break, observe everything & keep on reminding yourself that; you must never become something this level of mediocre one day.
We must believe in being a true self, first you be the person you expect to welcome to your life, radiate the energy you want to be around. Learn to be humble and encouraging to all, but don’t put your time and trust if people don’t deserve. I have a simple word for it, KARMA & I do believe in it. So, be observant to not make similar stupid mistakes & create GOOD KARMA.
We all hate the sound of alarm. Yet we all use it repeatedly for different use cases almost everyday.
Try something different next time. Talk to yourself once, Just wake up. You will not hate it as you used to & talking to yourself makes your brain work more efficiently. Double whammy to that laziness.
My new prayer to God every morning “Help Tap to grow into a stronger stable sorted sober sensible sassy soul from a stubborn stupid sleepy sucker, so that he can pull me out of bed 6AM every single day resulting a happy humble horny happening Tappie till he reaches bed once again at10.30PM”.