I have outgrown many things. I have outgrown relatives who gladly offer criticism but not support. I have outgrown my need to meet my family’s unrealistic expectations of me. I have outgrown people who wear masks and secretly rejoice at my misfortunes. (Not the corona situation face mask). I have outgrown shrinking myself for those who are intimidated by my intelligence and outspoken nature. I have outgrown friends who cannot celebrate my accomplishments. I have outgrown people who conveniently disappear whenever life gets a little dark. I have outgrown those who take pleasure in gossiping and spreading negativity. I have outgrown dull, meaningless conversations that feel forced. I hate smalltalk. I have outgrown those who don’t take a stand against ignorance and injustice. I have outgrown trying to please everyone. I have outgrown society constantly telling me I’m not beautiful, smart or worthy enough. I have outgrown my tendency to fill my mind with self doubt and insecurity. I have outgrown trying to find reasons not to love myself. I have outgrown anything and anyone that does not enrich the essence of my soul. I have outgrown many things. And I’ve never felt freer. (Not my words).
The goal is to become an upgraded version of my real self & a better HUMAN BEING every next day of this life. And i am connected to everyone who’s a part of that journey. If we have a steady flow of communication, you are celebrated in my books. There’s no WONDER without some WONDERFUL people in life. SOMETIMES LIFE SEEMS UNCOMFORTABLE BECAUSE YOUR OLD LIFE DOESN’T FIT ON YOU ANYMORE. YOU’VE OUTGROWN THE OLD YOU.
Religion is good, but organized religion is a scam.
GOD created humans to be independent, creative, unique and beautiful with own mind & heart, so that we can choose between what’s right & what’s wrong!! If your religion dictates how to pray, how to live, what to eat, when to eat, what to wear, what to think, then i am sorry to inform you that your God has already started cancelling you.
Don’t compare your actual self to a hypothetical self. Don’t drown in a sea of ‘what if’s. Don’t clutter your mind by imagining other versions of you in parallel universes, where you made different decisions.
The internet age encourages choice and comparison, but don’t do this to yourself. ‘Comparison is the thief of joy’. You are you. The past is the past. The only way to make a better life is from inside the present. To focus on regret does nothing but turn that very present into another thing you will wish you did differently. Accept your own reality. Be human enough to make mistakes. Be human enough not to dread the future. Be human enough to be, well enough. Be honest while appreciating or asking forgiveness. Accepting where you are in life makes it so much easier to be happy for other people without feeling terrible about yourself. (Not my words)
That’s your answer to “HOW TO BE HAPPY!!”. Being happy is easy & simple. Life is fun, let it be.
Whatever happening in Israel/Gaza/Palestine, it’s another British colonialism era blunder which was left to blast almost 100 years back. Let’s not go with the political side of it, i am highly unqualified to comment on that. In short, it’s a situation which could have been avoided & it should be avoided. When it’s a fight between a right wing/left wing/liberal or radical group against a sovereign state, the winner must be the sovereign state. That’s how we can move move stronger closer together towards a democratic human society. Whenever you are left to choose between ideas & ideology, choose ideas because there’s space to think & grow.
Israel is a sovereign democratic country & it must protect its territory and interest irrespective of who says what, international support or few foreign media dishing out. I know few people will question my opinion & few will straight point it towards Islamophobia. Sorry to say I DON’T EVEN UNDERSTAND TOO MUCH ABOUT MY OWN RELIGION, so i am not the right person to like or dislike any other’s religion or faith. Let’s say, I CAN’T CONNECT WITH THE IDEA OF DIFFERENT RELIGIONS HAVING DIFFERENT GODS. If there’s a GOD, there’s only one who’s looking forward to see some better HUMANS on this planet. If you believe your GOD is true, he doesn’t need you to protect him, he is way bigger stronger powerful compared to your love or any other person’s hate. Follow his words & work towards becoming a better Human with time instead of nurturing/supporting any radical ideology. Seeing people suffer hurts whether it’s Gaza or the Corona virus situation in India. Hope to see a better tomorrow & leave a better open friendly world for next generation.
Don’t let this world make you bitter. Don’t let the actions of other people turn you cold inside. Certain things happen that hurt us, people come that leave us, and most of all there are moments when you’re bound to fall. Don’t let those things make you unkind human. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to be sad. But it’s never okay to do other people wrong just because you were done wrong.
We are HUMANS. We break. We make mistakes. But don’t let pain and sadness run your lives. Wake up in the morning and do what you think is right. There are moments in your life where you feel like giving up and you can’t take it anymore. It’s okay. Breathe. Inhale. Exhale. I know you’re weak. But the things that show your weak side are also the same ones that make you stronger in the long run. It’s all about taking whatever life throws at you and learning from it. (Not my words).
Comparing yourself to others is a toxic human trait which does nothing but resulting in poor self-confidence. Perfection is an impossible idea and while it’s easy to say that “it’s okay to make mistakes” and “nobody’s perfect”. Sometimes it’s harder to apply those ideas to yourself. When you compare yourself to others, you’re doing everyone an injustice. If you focus on what makes you unique like your skills and potential only in comparison to other people, there will always be someone who outdoes you and you’ll always end up feeling bad.
Instead concentrate on where you are in your path of growth everyone learns different things at different paces at different times in their lives. Where you’re at is just as valid as where everyone else is.
Lying may be more common than you think. One study found that 40% of adults lie at least once in a day, usually in small ways. And even though some people lie more or less than others, a lie is a lie. So how do you navigate a world full of liars when you value honesty and integrity. Here are two major traits of genuinely honest people so you can decide whether you or someone in your life is truly a honest person:
1. They have a calm yet strong speaking voice. One of the easiest telltale signs of lying is an aggressive voice when you catch someone in a lie, they’ll often raise their voice in defense as a way to establish power. Honest people rarely become defensive when they’re asked questions, even if those questions seem accusatory in nature. When an honest person replies, their tone of voice is calm and consistent since there is no possible way they’ll be found out. They have nothing to worry about. There is no reason to lie or make up a story. There’s nothing to hide.
2. Honest people come across as rude sometimes. They are less concerned with catering to your feelings. They would rather tell you a truth that hurts then let you believe a lie that makes you feel good about yourself. They aren’t afraid to tell the truth, even if it means they’ll come across as rude or harsh. Because of this fact you might think an honest person is mean sometimes. If you’re not ready for the raw unadulterated truth, then don’t ask an honest person. They’re Not going to sugarcoat a situation or pretend that everything is OK. When it isn’t OK, they’ll present the facts and give their personal opinions even if it’s not what you want to hear. If you’ve ever received tough information from an honest person know that their intent is not malice, It’s HONESTY.
In this post i am talking about action of collective efforts to create a collective effect in all aspects. It’s true that you will eventually reap what you sow, but we should also realise that our individual decisions & actions become our eventual contribution to society. All of our intention & action create massive energy that creates major effects for all. This energy is eventually transmitted into our society and the world at large. So make sure your action creates value & inspiration to others. Make concious effort to be good to people. Pursue your goals and passion step by step. Lead by example.
Whether you believe in Karma or not, I usually talk about fundamental principles of life which can help you be a better human. I hope your parents, friends, society and even your God expects that from you. To live a life of impact you genuinely desire mastering your skills and knowledge about gratitude, effort, action, selflessness & happiness. They all combined will help you reach a life of fulfillment. The best reward is the one that contributes to the whole.