Love yourself when you make a mistake, say the wrong thing, when you fail after trying your hardest, when you forget to do something, and when you talk too much. You are going to make mistakes. Instead of hating yourself for those mistakes, choose to learn from your failures and LOVE YOURSELF anyway.
Hate no one, no matter how much they’ve wronged you. Live humbly, no matter how rich you become. Think positively, no matter how hard life is. Give much, even if you’ve been given little. Forgive all, especially yourself. And never stop praying & wishing the best for everyone. There’s no bigger form of wealth compared to GOOD WISHES.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. It’s about omicron variant. And so many people are testing postive even after getting vaccinated. See this video to get little knowledge about what’s next. It’s more transmissive, but less lethal. Still follow the government guidelines & take care of yourself.)
Everyone of us has done something wrong in life. We have hurted people. We all regret our wrongdoings.
But, very few of us are BRAVE enough to say SORRY in a meaningful way & ask forgiveness. My respect for such people never falls short, because regret makes no difference if you can’t change your approach for the better.
To choose forgiveness requires that we fight back our human desire for revenge. – Dr. John Perkins.
(Luca my brother, I never hated you & i am not strong enough to hate anyone. This date 21-12-21 & this tiny post is dedicated to you.)
DON’T LET ANYONE’S IGNORANCE, HATE, INCONSISTENCY, DRAMA OR NEGATIVITY STOP YOU FROM BEING THE BEST PERSON YOU CAN BE.
BE THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF FOR YOURSELF. (Not my words).
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I want to highlight this sillicon valley strategy of tech entrepreneurs. Steve Ballmer almost ruined entire enterprise market & mobile division of Microsoft, then Microsoft promoted Satya Nadella as CEO to clean up all mess & now Microsoft is profitable. Same happened with Google before Sundar Pichai succeeded as CEO. Now another Indian Parag Agrawal will succeed Jack Dorsey as Twitter CEO. Most of these big tech make big mess with some product or services, then hire an Indian CEO to fix it. Good part is, Yes Indians have the brain to pull it. Bad part is; WHY WAIT SO LONG TO RUIN WHAT’S GOOD!! At the end it’s public or investor’s money. Not sharing this because my blood goes back to India. CEO changed, stocks tanked. Now Elon is praising Indians, I wanna see when he hires an Indian CEO, so that i can buy few more Tesla stocks.)
A high school teacher once said; “Being close & open to your opposite sex is important, you become more transparent, there’s no insecurities which makes you more confident. Later that also helps you build better relationship/friendships”. I took those words bit too seriously i guess. Even though my name is bit spoiled with university girls, I haven’t dated many in my almost close to 30 life. Actually i never missed dating someone. Being an extrovert & a LEO, I always had/have options to choose with whom i want to hangout/party/travel/workout/get cozy/watch Netflix/movie night/go hiking or shopping.
Now back to the story/confession/realisation, here it goes: Way back when I was getting over a breakup, I used to spend most of my night filled with anger & a boyish temper. I didn’t realize it back then, I had so much to achieve in my life & such negative feelings weren’t helping. I wondered why she was able to get over faster than I was. Later I realised, it’s because I was spending so much time hating that situation rather than getting over it.
Anyone from my university friends scratching their head which breakup i am talking about; it’s my bestfriend DEMI. We are bestfriends since 7th century, but we have a mad crazy past. We dated for a very short period of time, I wasn’t ready for a COMMITMENT & i literally thought we were just fooling around. Fault was mine. I said YES to 4 girls for prom night & 2 out of those 4 were our seniors. I was expecting DEMI will be cool with it. To fight back & make me jealous, DEMI went on a date with one of my friends named Ivan. Being a loyal bro, Ivan asked my permission whether he is allowed to take DEMI out for a full monty brunch. DEMI didn’t like her date. She wanted to patch what fell apart in between us, but i was more focused with my studies & part-time job. I didn’t care much because i am the kinda guy who’s happy when my bank account grows, my life is more about my growth rather than allowing someone to mess with my piece of peace. Let’s say, I am a happy man because i am married to my bank account.
It became a runner/chaser situation for a week. Sad to say, i was the runner. One saturday evening it was snowing really bad. It was a lightbulb moment for me, I invited DEMI to try my homemade sourdough pizza. It wasn’t tasty like store-bought pizza, but we both ate it with pin drop silence. That was my first try with sourdough fermentation. Next day DEMI came to my apartment early morning, we followed another recipe from some website & we baked that pizza perfectly. We both were upset about each other’s behaviour. An amazing conversation after a good pizza helped us heal. We both got the closure & clarity we needed.
Coming back to this current day called TODAY, the only person who still sits on my lap is DEMI. I can ask her for a head & back massage anytime i want. We go on long drives. It’s a weddings/royal dinner invitations/travelling to some islands during weekends, we are each other’s +1 partner. If weather is not ok, we make it better by cuddling/spooning each other. 3-4 times she suggested whether we can date again! And as usual, I am not ready for dating experiments. But we already have an amazing equation, i don’t want to destroy that by allowing some romantic melodrama. We have a verbal agreement, there’s a sweet punishment if we miss each other’s phonecall or facetime. Last time i missed DEMI’s call when i was attending a university seminar, i had to send a butt naked snapchat streak to all my 186 friends as punishment. Our communication is flawless. The truth is, it took us a long time to build the amazing equation we share & i am not strong enough to hurt her. If i know someone who is TRUTHFUL & CONSISTENT so far in my life, it’s DEMI. Now there’s nothing except RESPECT & ADMIRATION towards each other.
Takeaway: Whatever struggle you are facing in your life, make sure you are not poisoning yourself with anger when you could be giving yourself love. When you are filled with anger or hate, the only person that suffers is you because most of the people you hate don’t know it and the rest don’t care. Fill yourself with SELF-LOVE & SUCCESS before you are in search of LOVE.
Your life is your own. I want you to read that sentence until it sinks all the way down inside your gut and meets every last impulse that tells you to put your intuition on pause, to place yourself second, to squeeze and bend and break into the molds of what everyone else wants you to be.
Your life is your own. I want it to pass through your head so many times it slowly clears out the debris of your fear. I want you to meditate on it until you realize that you are not too strange, you just have the courage to be your true self, you are not too different, you just have the courage to follow your own heart, you are not unworthy, you are just honest about the very natural human experience of feeling unworthiness.
Every person alive wishes to embody these very same forms of freedom. They are not judging you, they are expressing the parts of themselves they’ve judged into silence.
Your life is your own, and it always will be. You must find the courage to claim it, or it will pass by you untouched, a glimmering, lost potential of all that could have been. (Not my words).