Everybody has a home team: It’s the people you call when you get a flat tire or when something terrible happens. It’s the people who, near or far, know everything that’s wrong with you and love you anyways. These are the ones who tell you their secrets, who get themselves a glass of water without asking when they’re at your house. These are the ones who truly believe whatever you own partly belongs to them. These are the people who cry when you cry. These are your people, your middle-of-the-night pal, no-matter what other people think. FRIENDS COME AND GO, LIKE THE WAVES OF THE OCEAN, BUT THE TRUE ONES STAY, LIKE AN OCTOPUS ON YOUR FACE.
These few lines are dedicated to my mates who stood by my side & proved there’s something called “TIME-TESTED EQUATIONS”. Frank, Adam, Daria, Lucy, Karo, Chrissi, Emy & DEMI, thanks for wishing your TAP & joining my tiny celebration. I don’t have anything but gratitude & respect to offer you. I started a tiny health supplement business on 17-Sep-17 with a hope to promote healthy living & eating choices. Raised it like my first child & today my baby turned 4 years old. I wanted to celebrate this day little wilder, little more banter, but whatever comes with a smile is accepted. You own a huge chunk of my head & heart, ALWAYS. Everyday is a small step towards a becoming a better human. I am forever grateful. Love outta respect.
I am a good boy since i was 3 years old🤞. Anyone from my family or friends who saw bit too much sass in my snapchat stories, blame my bestie DEMI’s 🍑 & cheap Ryanair flight tickets. SORRY DEMI.🤪
This is for the ones who are struggling right now. This is for the ones who have been having a rough day or week or even year. The ones who feel like this storm will never end. Keep fighting for you. Not for friends, not for your family, but for you. Keep fighting because deep down you hold a tiny voice that knows you were meant for far more than this sadness and pain you are feeling. Keep fighting because the person you will be on the other side of all this is cheering for you so much. Keep fighting because you will get there. And it will be worth it.
Understand that your competition isn’t other people. Your competition is your procrastination. Your ego. The unhealthy food you’re consuming. The knowledge you neglect. The negative behaviour you’re nurturing. And your lack of creativity. Compete against that. You deserve a better you. (Not my words).
Life changes. You lose love. You lose friends. You lose pieces of yourself that you never imagined would be gone. And then, without you even realizing it, these pieces come back. Love blooms inside you with lots of respect. Better friends come along. And a stronger, wiser you is staring back in the mirror. No matter how bad it gets, better days are always waiting, hoping you’ll make it there to accept the smiles and joy that they’re offering.
Someone once told me to always live for the little things in life. Live for 5am sunrises and 5pm sunsets where you’ll see colours in the sky that don’t usually belong. Live for road trips and bike rides with music in your ears and the wind in your hair. Live for days when you’re surrounded by your favourite people who make you realise that the world is not a cold, harsh place. Live for the little things because they will make you realise that this is what life is about, this is what it means to be alive. LIFE IS ALL ABOUT A CONSISTENT FLOW OF POSITIVE VIBE WHICH STARTS WITH YOU. (Not my words.)
1.Who live in my city or near my city (max 2-4 hours away). We text whole day. Talk every night. Meet every weekend or we meet at least once in two weeks. 2.Who live in a different continent with huge timezone gap. We text here & there. We talk every weekend. We meet once or twice in a year.
I never entertained anything below these two. That’s the reason most of my friends are my friends since past 1600 years. It’s hard to entertain new people, because people are hella inconsistent with their approach. And consistency is a quality very few people pack in their soul, which soothes our soul in return. Consistent communication is the backbone of every equation.
Thanks to everyone who wished me “HAPPY BIRTHDAY”, who sent a big box of sneakers or a tiny little gift with a card, who knocked my door at 12am, who threw cake on my face, who hugged me from behind, who squeezed me, who slapped my ass, who kissed my cheeks purposefully, who kissed my lips accidentally, who snatched my phone, who made a mess in my living room, who had pizza at 1am with me, who put redwine on my white couch, who went on a late night drive with me, who gave me a head massage & back massage in front of 17 friends, who said “we are friends forever”, & who told me “TAPPIE YOU ARE WHOLE MINE THIS LIFE OR NEXT”.
At the end i must say, I don’t give a shit about birthdays. I am not a 3yr old kid who’s dying for gifts & people around. The more i am moving closer towards my 30, the more i am missing my high school, engineering college or MBA days, sometimes i also think about getting married & pumping 90-95 babies inside my future wifey. Kids are angelic to my eyes, not a secret.
I love you all because i love the vibe. You all make me a better me. Your wishes help me move forward stronger. Your midnight calls make me see a new world. Your energy makes me feel energetic. All of you are adored. Many call me TAP, some say TAPPIE, BESTIE DEMI says RUDEY coz my resting bitch face is hella rude, 3 say DADDY for fun, and everything is accepted that comes with a smile. Still feeling like a 16. Feeling like nothing much has changed in me, the same naughty sporty happy happening beefcake i used to be. Birthdays aren’t that important, friends showing up to surprise you at 12am is important. These feelings are irreplaceable. I owe you all whole of me. (If anyone noticed bit too much of sass in my snapchat stories, JUST SWALLOW IT.)🤪
Date the one who cares with her whole head & heart. Date her if you can see yourself going for a drive while blasting throwbacks and screaming crazy every word of that track without being judged. Date her if you can see yourself at 4 in morning talking about life, goals and all of your passions. Date her if you can have fun with her but still crawl back into her arms when you really want/need to. Date her if she is humble but makes you feel confident and hypes you up. Date her if she can make you feel spoiled without any gifts or anything materialistic. Date her if she opens the door for you before leaving for work and never lets you leave without kissing you goodbye. Don’t date because she calls you baby/boo or if she says she cares about you but just asks for money & timeouts. Don’t date her if she talks badly about you to her friends or doesn’t defend you if they talk trash about you. Don’t date her because things may get better someday. You are living in present, efforts are needed right now.
If the person who’s reading this post is TAP; Don’t date her if she believes in ketchup, orange juice, vegan diet & naturally aspirated V12. SORRY DEMI.🤪
In this journey of life, we always come accross new people. Some become friends, some turn out to be romantic equations. And yes people put efforts to get things going. They put efforts, but they put efforts for a while. And that’s the fuck up. Humans don’t understand this one tiny thing; “You have to keep working on it forever to have a relationship/equation forever which yields happiness forever”.
Your life isn’t an AEROPLANE and RELATIONSHIPS don’t run on AUTOPILOT. (Said by DADDY TAP i guess).😜
Story goes back to my highschool days. I used to suck at history & geography. But my grades with maths, physics, chemistry & language papers were amazing. I was a 85-90% scoring student. I was a good chess player, i have played state level game 9 times to be exact. Most of my school friends were dead serious about football, that game never excited me. I was not crazy about sports in school, but i was fond of playing basketball or volleyball with my street pals. Because such weird interests, i made some friends outside my school. Most of them were my seniors, nobody cared because of my height & build. I think i look like a beefcake since forever. On top of that I hit puberty little earlier. In my class, i was the only 13 year old with some moustache & beard.
It was summer vacation after my grade-8. Few of my new streetsmart friends suggested to watch “THE MATRIX RELOADED”, of course it’s an amazing movie, but watching the same thing 4 times in 2 weeks smelled like a dumb idea. So we went to a DVD movie rental store to browse any other movie we can watch. Suddenly it started raining. One of my wise friends wanted to rent a X-rated movie. Let me clear, it wasn’t a porno. I agree some scenes were bit too much for our teenage eager brain. One of my friend’s neighbour girl knocked my door that evening and told me that she saw me renting/watching that movie. My “good student” image was really important to me & being an extrovert asshole i was, i cracked a deal within 20-30 minutes. Deal was; she will not say anything about that movie to anyone & we need condoms before locking doors. I lost my cherry that evening. She was 4 years elder to me & she started acting way too much romantic within a week, which was hella confusing. I had to cut everything bluntly because i wanted to focus on my studies, my friends, my chess, my piano lessons, my playstation, my basketball power forward position, my swimming classes & my 16 miles ride to a nearby river.
I am in my late 20s building strong morals & a big bank account, so that i can buy all happiness i desire for myself & my family. My approach to life in general is; “REMAIN TRUTHFUL & CONSISTENT, YOU WILL SEE EVERY POSSIBLE SUCCESS COMING YOUR WAY”. That’s all i wanna see in my people. That day & today; whenever i say i like someone, my friends think i am talking about some latina’s fine ass. Never understood how to be romantic. Basically i never wanted someone so bad that i can imagine being in a relationship. I was into someone recently, let’s not name it a relationship. I came in touch with someone who walked the same journey as mine & she is living in my city since 2012, but i got to know her after 6-7 years. It’s amazing to see people who believe in same basic human values as yours. The sad part is; people & their predictable behaviour. Especially their inconsistency, that’s my biggest turn off moment. I have made some rules to lead a simple happy happening life & one rule says; Every liar is inconsistent & every inconsistent person is a liar. Whenever someone acts inconsistent, just cut that equation no matter it’s a friendship, relationship, fling or fuck-buddy. Once a person goes inconsistent, their next step is lying. That’s how every inconsistent person tries to justify their inconsistency.
Moral of the story is; Never offer half baked emotions/attention/affection, first you have to be sure about yourself whether you are ready!! I am a strong believer of KARMA. I believe if i can do something wrong with someone, some other person can do the same thing with me.
There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love, not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own.
Go on adventures, fall asleep in the woods with friends, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffee shop planning your future & finance, leave notes in library books, workout, learn something new everyday, dress up for yourself, fetch your goals, give back to others & society, smile a lot. Do all things with love, but don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without it. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn’t any less beautiful, I promise. Life is fun, let it be.
You are the books you read, the films you watch, the music you listen to, the people you meet, the kind of friends you have, the work you do, the dreams you have, the conversations you engage in, the way you respond & react.
You are what you take from these. You are the sound of the ocean, the breath of fresh air, the brightest light and the darkest corner.
You are a collective of every experience you have had in your life. You are every single day. So drown yourself in a sea of knowledge, experience and existence. Let the words run through your veins and let the colours fill your mind. Be a real you.
The reason i don’t understand GOSSIP, Gossiping for attention & telling stories can make you appear smarter and more engaging, it may even help you feel accepted in a social group. But gossiping always backfires in the long run.
Spreading gossip is only a short-term solution to elicit approval and although people may enjoy here and there to gossip, later they tend to dislike those who spread it. It reveals that she/he may be untrustworthy or judgmental after all if you talk about others behind their back, what’s to stop you from gossiping about anyone in your life including the people you gossip to. People are temporary & gossiping is cheap. Learn to learn something new to keep yourself exciting, young & happy.