Find someone who loves you well. Someone who never belittles you even in the heat of an argument. Someone who is gentle with you, but does not treat you like you are fragile. Someone who knows what you are capable of, and celebrates those pieces of you. Not someone who is intimidated by your strength. Someone who doesn’t make you feel guilty for being flawed. It is not love’s job to punish you. And remember the person you love is just as broken as you are when they fall short. No one is perfect do not hold them to this standard.
Find someone who is patient, consistent, forgiving, and apologetic. Someone who practices forgiveness freely and often. Love someone who is humble, kind, and empathetic. Not only with you, but with a beggar on the street, or a stranger in the supermarket. Common courtesy is important. Compassion is important. Kindness is important.
Now that i mentioned something about relationships twice in a day, my university friends will again start questioning whether i am seeing someone! Let me answer even before that question pops up. Most of my posts are scheduled a month advance. Typing these two paragraphs today right before the post goes live.
I entertained something inconsistent for a while. Whatever happened, I am not strong enough to blame or hate anyone. Let’s say, that was my fault. I am in the process of becoming single. In Snapchat, if you see my hands resting on some girl’s fine 🍑, high chances it’s either my bestie DEMI or my neighbour girl. Yes, i have a ting towards athletic girls.♌ But I don’t have a TYPE whom i want to date. First i have to be ready, next the connection must vibe positivity & remain consistent, that’s all. The most beautiful part about a girl where my heart goes little weak; when i feel she is grabbing my arms little stronger looking into my eyes with a wide big bright smile, while crossing baby/kid’s clothing section in shopping malls. Everyone knows i adore kids, they are angelic to me. 2023 goal is to become the best A+ dad world has ever seen, and i will settle to be a good B+ boyfriend/husband i guess.😂
Be happy on purpose. Look for the rainbow when it’s raining. Find the hope even when it’s bleak. Choose forgiveness even when bitterness is easier. Choose love even when it feels impossible. Make it a habit to choose joy as much as you possibly can because life isn’t meant to be lived in disappointment or frustration. It’s not meant to be lived in hatred. It’s meant to be lived laughing so hard your stomach hurts. It’s meant to be filled with soft moments of love. It’s meant to be filled with tight hugs that last for minutes. Life is meant to be lived happy.
Next few lines about this word “HAPPY”. Only my 17 close friends know why sometimes i ask “Are you happy?” during our weekend meets. Good people, good communication & good vibes are always welcome with a HAPPY heart. (Pizzeria & Diwali, Thanks to all those who joined for a tiny celebration.)
Forgive yourself for the desires you judged harshly. Forgive yourself for indulging in things that took up your time but didn’t fulfill you. Forgive yourself for declaring yourself as someone you’re not. Forgive yourself for your chosen avenues of negative expression. Forgive yourself for all the times you didn’t add value to others. Forgive yourself for what you discovered about yourself that you didn’t like. Forgive yourself for whatever ugliness you saw in yourself. Forgive yourself for not correcting what you think you should have. Forgive yourself for the parts you couldn’t respect. Forgive yourself for all these judgements. Forgive yourself for not being able to forgive yourself before. Forgive yourself for how you chose to survive. Foregiveness is making a conscious decision to live in the present, even if the past still hurts.
(This paragraph got nothing to do with the post above. Everything that’s real takes longer to build, the longer it stands & the longer it takes to break. Chrissi you dumb girl, keep on forgiving TAP. I can’t accept your gift till next year. Let me fix myself first, right now i am the wrong one. Doors to my house are open for my people every Saturday, please join. Love outta respect. Truth is trust.)
When you live with unforgiveness in your heart, you become debilitated, unable to move and show up in the world in the way that you were created to all because, you took on the spirit of offense and chose not to forgive.
So, you see while at times, you may feel like it’s your right to hold offense and not forgive and while you do have free will you must also understand that what you felt was a “right” will also be the very thing that strips you of your ability to live in freedom. And, so in your quest to experience justice, you’ll only instigate the greater injustice against yourself, your we being, and your future.
Know this: FORGIVENESS IS POWERFUL. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. It liberates you from offense, from bitterness, and from the negative spirits that will invade your heart, soul, and mind and prohibit you from being a source of light in the world. So, forgive even when it’s hard, even when the person across the table is undeserving.
(This paragraph got nothing to do with the post above. I am still a part-time employee because of my student status & business interests. Workplace environment gets messy when somebody sends a package without mentioning employee ID, especially when we all are working from home since the beginning of this pandemic. It’s tough to explain further. Please don’t send gifts to my office address.)
Don’t compare your actual self to a hypothetical self. Don’t drown in a sea of ‘what if’s. Don’t clutter your mind by imagining other versions of you in parallel universes, where you made different decisions.
The internet age encourages choice and comparison, but don’t do this to yourself. ‘Comparison is the thief of joy’. You are you. The past is the past. The only way to make a better life is from inside the present. To focus on regret does nothing but turn that very present into another thing you will wish you did differently. Accept your own reality. Be human enough to make mistakes. Be human enough not to dread the future. Be human enough to be, well enough. Be honest while appreciating or asking forgiveness. Accepting where you are in life makes it so much easier to be happy for other people without feeling terrible about yourself. (Not my words)
That’s your answer to “HOW TO BE HAPPY!!”. Being happy is easy & simple. Life is fun, let it be.
Fuck you if you have the audacity to judge me behind my back. I may have 100, I reveal 10. Because it’s my call what to show. If you have dealt with me during my high school/engineering/university days, please don’t hate me for my past behaviour. You know what I was going through.
I never have/had a backup plan in my life. Never took impulsive decisions. Still I am asking for a FORGIVENESS for my part of mess & a tiny invitation for a coffee with full monty, let’s mend the shits went wrong. I think twice before my actions, that’s why I have no reasons to rethink after my actions. Doesn’t matter you treated me good or bad, I am welcoming you open arms with an offer of friendship. We can’t change the past. Why don’t you ring my number instead of calling everyone & saying you are SORRY for what you did with me! I am still using the same number since 2009. My phone will be general after 5pm weekdays. Don’t be afraid. Let’s catch up.
(Targeted towards my mate C*****. Stop stalking & start talking please.)
Your ego, lying, cheating, manipulation, deceit, tampering, hiding, sidelining & sexual addiction all are DEVIL in a relationship which is there inside you.
Being a human, you have enough knowledge to understand & separate what’s right or what’s wrong!! People who bullshit always get confused between apology or appreciation. Don’t break something that you can’t fix. Don’t do something wrong if you don’t know how to ask forgiveness.