We don’t change the world by trying to change everyone. We change the world by taking responsibility for our own thoughts, feelings, intentions and actions. Change is contagious and it begins with each one of us, taking PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY.
It’s okay if life scares you right now and you don’t really know what to do next. It’s okay if everything seems to be hurting and all you feel is anxious and worried. And it’s okay if you are hopeless about everything. It’s okay. It’s okay. It’s okay. All these feelings have value and you don’t have to pretend like they don’t hurt you. Our greatest strength lies in our ability to acknowledge our pain, things that hurt us. Remember everything that you are going through is temporary, none of them are here to stay. But when they leave, they will leave you as a person stronger than ever before.
So let yourself feel all that you need to feel. Do whatever you feel necessary for you to heal yourself. It’s okay if it takes time. It’s okay if none of it makes sense right now. BE STRONG & COURAGEOUS.
Just always be the better person. And make your intentions pure. What and who you are is what will be remembered. Pain is inevitable and it will always exist, but if you focus on understanding what you are and what you are feeling, and why you are feeling it, you will overcome it.
The expectations we have often do not correspond with reality, we are disappointed every time this happens. We become disappointed when we expect to be treated as we treat others. When you start to realize that everyone is living at a different stage, thinking differently and making their choices, then you can only accept the fact that people do not share the same mind and heart. When you want to be happy you have to let go of that and start with yourself, be the person you can be proud of, be an example, show respect and understanding. Others may not change, but know that it is not up to you and be proud of how you are. You’ve got so much soul to be handled by someone who has never been passionate. Be a better you first. Life is fun, let it be.
There is someone out there in the world that doesn’t have to be forced to fit into your puzzle called LIFE. Do not take the risk of settling for someone if you’re uncertain of your feelings just because you want some kind of companionship. There is someone out there who is meant for you. Leave the door open for them to come in. Until then: Focus on you.
Focus on pursuing your goals and give yourself the opportunity to make your dreams come true without being distracted by detours. Surround yourself with family, loyal loved ones and successful people, that way you’ll learn how to succeed from them. Learn to better yourself everyday by taking what they teach you and teaching what they taught you. Be patient and keep yourself busy. Allow love to catch up to you, but on its own time.
Feeling overwhelmed is a TRAP, a tricky one. When we’re overwhelmed, we see all that needs to be done and say, “That’s too much. I can’t do it. So instead, I shall do nothing”. Feeling overwhelmed occurs when we say, “I am already too busy so I can’t do that and now all is pressing in on me and I can’t do anything”. And the acts that are ours to do keep piling up and pulling on us. And we keep resisting. And stress and pressure build up. Feeling overwhelmed leads to feeling stuck, and both are an illusion. How simple those things that overwhelm us actually become when we release the feeling and return to the rhythm of our lives!! When we say, “Yes, I need to make that phone call, do that task”. How simple the task becomes, how simple life becomes.
What’s bothering you that needs to be done? What’s pulling on you? What’s causing you to feel overwhelmed and maybe stuck, too? Make a list. Put your list aside, and begin by taking action one by one. Then watch as life unfolds. One act at a time, one thing at a time, all that needs to be done will get done. The stress will disappear, and you’ll feel back on track. Simple. You’ll be given the ability, power, and guidance to do all that is on your path to do. Begin simply, quietly, by acknowledging feeling what you need to. Do what you want to do without hurting others. It’s your mind which plays this “feeling overwhelmed” game. Life is a sweet simple source of joy.
1.Who live in my city or near my city (max 2-4 hours away). We text whole day. Talk every night. Meet every weekend or we meet at least once in two weeks. 2.Who live in a different continent with huge timezone gap. We text here & there. We talk every weekend. We meet once or twice in a year.
I never entertained anything below these two. That’s the reason most of my friends are my friends since past 1600 years. It’s hard to entertain new people, because people are hella inconsistent with their approach. And consistency is a quality very few people pack in their soul, which soothes our soul in return. Consistent communication is the backbone of every equation.
Thanks to everyone who wished me “HAPPY BIRTHDAY”, who sent a big box of sneakers or a tiny little gift with a card, who knocked my door at 12am, who threw cake on my face, who hugged me from behind, who squeezed me, who slapped my ass, who kissed my cheeks purposefully, who kissed my lips accidentally, who snatched my phone, who made a mess in my living room, who had pizza at 1am with me, who put redwine on my white couch, who went on a late night drive with me, who gave me a head massage & back massage in front of 17 friends, who said “we are friends forever”, & who told me “TAPPIE YOU ARE WHOLE MINE THIS LIFE OR NEXT”.
At the end i must say, I don’t give a shit about birthdays. I am not a 3yr old kid who’s dying for gifts & people around. The more i am moving closer towards my 30, the more i am missing my high school, engineering college or MBA days, sometimes i also think about getting married & pumping 90-95 babies inside my future wifey. Kids are angelic to my eyes, not a secret.
I love you all because i love the vibe. You all make me a better me. Your wishes help me move forward stronger. Your midnight calls make me see a new world. Your energy makes me feel energetic. All of you are adored. Many call me TAP, some say TAPPIE, BESTIE DEMI says RUDEY coz my resting bitch face is hella rude, 3 say DADDY for fun, and everything is accepted that comes with a smile. Still feeling like a 16. Feeling like nothing much has changed in me, the same naughty sporty happy happening beefcake i used to be. Birthdays aren’t that important, friends showing up to surprise you at 12am is important. These feelings are irreplaceable. I owe you all whole of me. (If anyone noticed bit too much of sass in my snapchat stories, JUST SWALLOW IT.)🤪
No one knows what you need to do more than you do. Cry when you need to. It’s relieving. Laugh when you need to. It’s healing. Sit alone when you need to. It’s necessary. Surround yourself with strangers when you need to. It’s eye-opening. Living by your needs is not easy. No one said it was.
But a fact that you should always remember is this: “you are more worthy of being taken care of than anyone around you”. And I don’t mean the superficial kind of care. I mean the care that your soul needs. Everyone around you is struggling somehow. Everyone around you is trying to reach a goal, a destination, or a dream. Just as you might not expose your worries to the world, no one else has to.
Remember that you are a work in progress. You are not perfect. You are not expected to be perfect. Do not allow the fear of falling to stop you from jumping. Do not allow the fear of responsibility to stop you from committing. Do not allow the fear of exposure to stop you from shining. FOLLOW WHAT YOU FEEL & FEED YOUR SOUL.
I may regret many things: Decisions I made. Decisions I didn’t make. Feelings I expressed. Feelings I suppressed. People I loved. People I rejected. People I respected. People I neglected. People I listened to. People I confided in. Promises I made. Promises I believed. Questions I asked. Answers I gave. Words I said. Words I didn’t say.
At the end reflecting is essential, but regret should not ground you in the past. It should make you grateful that you have a conscious mind that realizes what is right and wrong. It should give you strength to wisely use your present to make your future better. It should free you. If you don’t stop judging yourself, putting yourself down, believing that this is as good as you can be, then you’ve closed doors for yourself before they even appear in front of you. You’ve become a slave of your past & you aren’t allowed to. Don’t expect to be who you want to be without being true to yourself and believing in yourself. If you don’t believe in yourself, don’t expect anyone to believe in you. If you don’t see the best in yourself, don’t expect anyone to see the best in you. When you close a door; do you expect back and stare at it and say, “I can’t leave because this door is still closed in front of me”? Think about it. Take small steps consistently, but with good vibe & high energy. Be True to Yourself.
Be the person who cares. Be the person who makes the effort. Be the person who loves without hesitation. Be the person who bares it all. Be the person who never shies away from the depth of their feeling or the intensity of their hope. Be the person who believes in the softness of the world, in the goodness of other people, in the beauty of being open and untethered and trusting. Be the person who takes the chance. Be the person who refuses to hide. Be the person who makes people feel seen. Be the person who shows up.
Trust me when I say “person who cares”. Because the world doesn’t need any more carelessness, any more disregard; because there is nothing stronger than someone who continues to stay soft in a world that hasn’t always been kind to them. Be known for your KINDNESS & GRACE.