TRUST is a bond between two people that is found only when they are able to listen and understand where the other person is coming from. That to me is the key to friendships and relationships.
Relationships between family, friends, significant others, and colleagues are complicated and full of learning experiences. Nobody comes into this world knowing everything. We all go through different experiences, make mistakes, have successes, and then make more mistakes that we can learn from. We all take our own sweet time to trust, evaluate, make a move, prepare and proceed.
When talking to friends or anyone who’s a part of your life, make sure you are really listening to what they have to say and aren’t distracted by something else. Most people just listen to respond, reply, retaliate or react, which is complete nonsense. Listen to understand, COMMUNICATION is the first step to TRUST. You owe that to them and you would want the same in return. The ability to trust and listen to the people in your life is the foundation all healthy relationships are built on. (Not my words).
Everybody has a home team: It’s the people you call when you get a flat tire or when something terrible happens. It’s the people who, near or far, know everything that’s wrong with you and love you anyways. These are the ones who tell you their secrets, who get themselves a glass of water without asking when they’re at your house. These are the ones who truly believe whatever you own partly belongs to them. These are the people who cry when you cry. These are your people, your middle-of-the-night pal, no-matter what other people think. FRIENDS COME AND GO, LIKE THE WAVES OF THE OCEAN, BUT THE TRUE ONES STAY, LIKE AN OCTOPUS ON YOUR FACE.
These few lines are dedicated to my mates who stood by my side & proved there’s something called “TIME-TESTED EQUATIONS”. Frank, Adam, Daria, Lucy, Karo, Chrissi, Emy & DEMI, thanks for wishing your TAP & joining my tiny celebration. I don’t have anything but gratitude & respect to offer you. I started a tiny health supplement business on 17-Sep-17 with a hope to promote healthy living & eating choices. Raised it like my first child & today my baby turned 4 years old. I wanted to celebrate this day little wilder, little more banter, but whatever comes with a smile is accepted. You own a huge chunk of my head & heart, ALWAYS. Everyday is a small step towards a becoming a better human. I am forever grateful. Love outta respect.
I am a good boy since i was 3 years old🤞. Anyone from my family or friends who saw bit too much sass in my snapchat stories, blame my bestie DEMI’s 🍑 & cheap Ryanair flight tickets. SORRY DEMI.🤪
This is for the ones who are struggling right now. This is for the ones who have been having a rough day or week or even year. The ones who feel like this storm will never end. Keep fighting for you. Not for friends, not for your family, but for you. Keep fighting because deep down you hold a tiny voice that knows you were meant for far more than this sadness and pain you are feeling. Keep fighting because the person you will be on the other side of all this is cheering for you so much. Keep fighting because you will get there. And it will be worth it.
Understand that your competition isn’t other people. Your competition is your procrastination. Your ego. The unhealthy food you’re consuming. The knowledge you neglect. The negative behaviour you’re nurturing. And your lack of creativity. Compete against that. You deserve a better you. (Not my words).
Date her who walks you till your car. Date her who dares to steal your hoodie in front of your face. Date her who wants to meet your parents, and is respectful towards them. Date her who respects your siblings and family members. Date her who’s kind to animals, its a reflection of how she’ll treat usual people. Date her who makes you smile. Date her who looks confident with or without makeup. Date her who will listen to your complain or accomplishments. Date her who doesn’t force you to do things you don’t want to. Date her who will come hang out and cuddle just cause she can. Date her who loves you through the good and the bad. Date her who has seen you angry, happy, sad, and still feels for you. Date her who has a hunger for SUCCESS & hunger for more beyond that. Date her who actually utilises her time to the fullest, so that she can value your TIME. Now you know you aren’t entertaining someone boring/sluggish.
Life can easily remain exciting happy happening even in a relationship if you are dealing with a stronger individual, stronger in finance & faith.
Stay away from people with negative vibe & toxic mindset. Here is a HOW TO or WHOM TO;
1. Entertain those who exchange attention & mutual admiration.
2. Stay away from “Dry texters”, these kind of people can figure out a problem in everything that’s soothing to your head or heart. The thing is, they are just not interested in you. The earlier you understand, the better. Read more on this by clicking here. In general, every conversation with a dry texter is a pointless nonsense, it’s going nowhere. If communication sucks, just cut it or back off humbly.
3. Also stay away from those whose screen time in instagram is more than 4 minutes a day. (Most successful people don’t even use such apps in their phone, they have hired agencies to keep fools stuck to create a brand value for their name. And i bet you don’t want a fool in your life).
4. If someone’s social circle is too random, that’s a sign of major inconsistency in their personality.
5. Never believe those who say bullshits like; “MONEY IS NOT THAT BIG OF A DEAL, I WOULD RATHER FOCUS ON LOVE OR FAMILY”. These are the double whammy of fickleness & fake ideology. We are living in 2021, a happy LOVE & a happy FAMILY both come with a bill.
Enough said about what not to. Click here to read a previous post on what are the green signals of a healthy humanly equation. Hope you have a good one.
I have outgrown many things. I have outgrown relatives who gladly offer criticism but not support. I have outgrown my need to meet my family’s unrealistic expectations of me. I have outgrown people who wear masks and secretly rejoice at my misfortunes. (Not the corona situation face mask). I have outgrown shrinking myself for those who are intimidated by my intelligence and outspoken nature. I have outgrown friends who cannot celebrate my accomplishments. I have outgrown people who conveniently disappear whenever life gets a little dark. I have outgrown those who take pleasure in gossiping and spreading negativity. I have outgrown dull, meaningless conversations that feel forced. I hate smalltalk. I have outgrown those who don’t take a stand against ignorance and injustice. I have outgrown trying to please everyone. I have outgrown society constantly telling me I’m not beautiful, smart or worthy enough. I have outgrown my tendency to fill my mind with self doubt and insecurity. I have outgrown trying to find reasons not to love myself. I have outgrown anything and anyone that does not enrich the essence of my soul. I have outgrown many things. And I’ve never felt freer. (Not my words).
The goal is to become an upgraded version of my real self & a better HUMAN BEING every next day of this life. And i am connected to everyone who’s a part of that journey. If we have a steady flow of communication, you are celebrated in my books. There’s no WONDER without some WONDERFUL people in life. SOMETIMES LIFE SEEMS UNCOMFORTABLE BECAUSE YOUR OLD LIFE DOESN’T FIT ON YOU ANYMORE. YOU’VE OUTGROWN THE OLD YOU.
Two major discomforting traits of most people; EXCESSIVE PRIDE & INSECURITY. Let’s talk about both little bit. Purpose is to identify & get rid of these ASAP, i am talking this to both reader & writer.
Excessive pride. Pride isn’t necessarily a terrible thing. It can bring you confidence and self-assurance which are two great qualities that can help you lead a happy life. However pride can also cause destruction through overconfidence and resistance to learning. If your pride is extreme, it can ruin your personal and professional relationships. It’s not uncommon for people to let their pride prevent them from acknowledging their mistakes and to learn from them whether it’s a project at the office or an argument with a friend. It’s essential to keep your pride in check and get rid of any excess that is no longer serving you.
Insecurity. Insecurity has no benefits, it often arises from judgment or criticism of yourself and other people. It causes chronic unhappiness and becomes a burden on your life. As long as you are the most honest and authentic version of yourself, no one has the right to judge you for it and that goes for you too. There is nothing wrong with living your life the way you want to live. If self-doubt is something you picked up along the way and it’s something you can drop whenever you choose. Your friends and family love you for you. When you doubt their respect to faction or acceptance, you are doing a disservice not only to yourself but to your loved ones as well.
Stop taking things personally. We all are collateral damage to somebody else’s bad decision. You can apply it to all scenarios of life related to love, job, money or family. Take a chill. Don’t be too sensitive. No-one is mean to you. You are incredibly amazing as a true you.