This is for the ones who are struggling right now. This is for the ones who have been having a rough day or week or even year. The ones who feel like this storm will never end. Keep fighting for you. Not for friends, not for your family, but for you. Keep fighting because deep down you hold a tiny voice that knows you were meant for far more than this sadness and pain you are feeling. Keep fighting because the person you will be on the other side of all this is cheering for you so much. Keep fighting because you will get there. And it will be worth it.
Understand that your competition isn’t other people. Your competition is your procrastination. Your ego. The unhealthy food you’re consuming. The knowledge you neglect. The negative behaviour you’re nurturing. And your lack of creativity. Compete against that. You deserve a better you. (Not my words).
Your competition is your procrastination, your ego, the unhealthy food you’re consuming, the knowledge you neglect, the negative behavior you’re nurturing & your lack of creativity. Compete against that.
Never expect affection or approval from a narcissist. They always focus on your faults. Narcissist boost their own self-worth by demanding special treatment garnering obedient followers and establishing the highest expectations from others and they enjoy inflating their egos by making other people feel bad about themselves. That’s why they focus on what you do wrong in life.
A narcissist will keep a laundry list of your mistakes faults to use when it’s convenient for them at the same time. They’ll overlook your successes and anything that you do right? Keep that in mind. In the next time you’re trying to gain approval or affection from a narcissist, no matter how hard you try nothing will ever guarantee their support.
True confidence is very different from egotistical swagger. When people believe in themselves and their abilities, there are things they simply don’t do. Don’t get me wrong, learning to be confident is important but there are certain behaviors that sets highly confident people apart from everyone else. Two major things confident people never do:
1: They don’t over focus on appearance. When someone is self-confident, they have a healthy relationship with their appearance. They stay Fit and well groomed, and they eat healthy food because they know their bodies deserve to be taken care properly. Confident people strive to put their best foot forward and then accept themselves as they are.
2. They don’t try to change their personality. Whether someone is an introvert or an extrovert, they can still be confident. Confident people understand that self-assurance comes from feeling good about who they are and what they can achieve by being completely authentic. They don’t try to be someone they’re not, because they understand that self-acceptance is a vital element of self-confidence.
When somebody talks about my EGO or arrogance without meeting me in person, I can come to only one conclusion that “this person has a poor sense of understanding people”. I am not some celebrity or politician who can be mean for no reason. The best quality about me is “I love being random”. If you are one of my close buddies, one thing you know about my mindset is “I love money but I hate the fame associated to it”. Goal of my life is to make money & stay random. Only thing you can judge about me over internet is my race or my opinions, beyond that rest is your presumptions which is nothing but pure bullshit.
Very few understand your behaviour begins with your ability to accept, accept new information, accepting people & accepting yourself for what you are. We live in a world where people counter others with baseless crap lacking enough juice to back their words. It’s nothing but result of a lazy unenthusiastic mindset. If you are reading this please don’t mind being appreciative to others no matter what goes right or wrong. Being nice costs nothing. And a smile or goodwill you earn in return is priceless. Life is fun, let it be.
I have a bad habit to block random people from my life. The way I see it is; if I can be happy for a day without entertaining someone, I can be happy my whole life without that person. That’s another reason how I scare people away. This tiny paragraph is for flings & acquaintances.
Now let’s talk about the people who are in my life. I feel cherished & valued because my people understand how much I value self-respect. I don’t have anything like EGO in me. You can’t offend me. Being a human I too have flaws & I admit them time after time whenever I mess up something. Mama once said; “Do amazing new mistakes, that’s how you can understand where you can go wrong. But never repeat that same mistake again, that’s when you grow to be a bigger better you.” That’s the goal of life now. Goal is to become a bigger better TAP without entertaining unnecessary people or drama.
I work as a data analytics professional & I also run a tiny health supplement business where i sell some athleisure clothing as well under my brand name in few e-commerce sites, because of my business I come in touch with different types of people from different regions/backgrounds. To be honest most people are not good with their ego & self-respect, people fail to understand the difference between both because of their insecurities. Sometimes it goes even more weird because there is MONEY involved. This is the story of other side where I feel other side is cringey or clingy just to get a bargain in a bulk order.
Story of my side is “The businessman part of me is nasty”, please don’t expect a gentle/sweet response if you are talking to me in between 11am-3pm. I just talk logic & numbers in that timeframe. A strong competitive mindset that I can’t leave aside which portrays my image as an angry stubborn rude TAP. The worst part is, I do this with a healthy happy funny mood. I still don’t know how/why my voice sounds so deep/grumpy during that specific time. Learning to be more calm & composed with time. I wish everyday not to hurt anyone with my words, but this happens once in a while. I still make things right before hitting bed. I can’t fall asleep with a thought of hurting someone.
Lesson for me today: There is no place for ARROGANCE & IGNORANCE in business. RESPECT THAT RESPECT YOU GET FROM OTHERS.