Bad timing doesn’t exist. The people your heart chooses at what it thinks is the wrong time, are simply just the wrong people. They are simply just the ones who were meant to get away. They were simply just the ones who were never meant to stay. Because at the end of the day, the right people fight for you. The right people show up. The right people care, not only when life is convenient, but when it is difficult and messy, and it aches all over. The right people take the chance, they choose you just as confidently as you choose them. They hand you their heart. They bet on you. They believe in what you share with a ruthless conviction, with a hope that spills out of them. Have the courage to wait for these people. Do not settle for half loves. Do not settle for someone who does not see the value in holding your heart.
The people who walk away from you because the timing is not right, are simply just the people who are not willing to put the right amount of time into you. Let that be your closure. -By Bianca Sparacino.
Your words can be more healing than any kind of medicine. They can be more toxic than any kind of poison. They can ease a mind of its nagging questions. They can relieve a heart from its doubts. They can free a heart from the chains that keep it holding on and that make it fear letting go. They can spring hope into a deserted heart. They can shatter a soul barely holding on to the pieces that make it strong. They can be a shelter for the broken and a canon of motivation for those who need confidence. They can build mountains of confidence and build stairs to those dreams that hide above the clouds. They can dig holes into the darkest and deepest of scars. They can strike happiness into the souls in most need of it, and They can strike sadness into the souls of those most far away from it.
So, before you speak, ask yourself if your words are true. If they are not, then you are fooling the hopeless into hope that won’t last & you are also lying to yourself. You are breaking down walls temporarily that will be built even higher afterwards. Say what the truth and genuineness in your heart need to say. Say no more. Your words are equally powerful & destructive, measure it before saying something.
Don’t worry about what people think of you or about the way they try to make you feel. If people want to see you as a good person, they will. If they want to see you as a bad person, absolutely nothing you do will stop them. Ironically, the more you try to show them your good intentions, the more reason you give them to knock you down if they are commited to misunderstanding you.
Keep your head up high and be confident in what you do. Be confident in your intentions and keep your eyes ahead instead of wasting your time on those who want to drag you back. Because you can’t change people’s views, you have to believe that true change for yourself comes from within you, not from anyone else. STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF & JUST YOURSELF, THAT’S ENOUGH.
(That post on 10-April was scheduled before a year. Don’t take it seriously, things change. That’s the reason i deleted it.)
We all think about past good or bad days, then the next step is “beating yourself up in your head”. We must stop doing this to have a happy healthy state of mind.
People with strong stable mentality hold themselves accountable for their behavior. They refuse to entertain toxic self-criticism. They don’t beat themselves up when they fail or make mistakes because they know, it only harms them in the end instead. They choose a path of growth and compassion always forgiving themselves and learning from their mistakes. First step to achieve peace of mind: FORGIVE YOURSELF.
One of the worst things you can do with yourself is: Overthinking. Have you ever heard or experienced analysis paralysis? If you have, you know that overthinking leads to freezing up and whirring. If you want to be mentality strong & decisive, OVERTHINKING is your first enemy.
Mentally strong people choose not to give any energy to that negativity, they’d rather think critically and take logical action. Of course, they know that there are always risks and consequences no matter what choice they make. After all there is no perfect decision. Nonetheless be confident no matter what happens, you’ll be okay.
Grandpa once said “If you are confident about your views or values, never expect others to certify it”. I was still in my teen days when he said it. He died at the age of 97 before 3 years. I am somehow understanding his words how & why. I talk a lot about building confidence to develop a stronger self-esteem, which can later help in growing self-respect further. Let me explain all in few words;
1- Confident people don’t force their views on others. They don’t force their beliefs on anyone else whether those beliefs are political or religious. They have a clear understanding that these beliefs in choices are personal for everyone. They may stand up for themselves when others oppose, but will never challenge what other people think nor feel the need to tell them that they are wrong.
2- Never compromise your values. Having defined core values is foundational principles to any pursuit in life. Confident people live in alignment with their values and will never compromise themselves what they hold dear. They use these values as they make decisions in both life and work. Even if it means giving up something desirable in the short term. When it comes to confidence one thing is certain, truly confident people always have the upper hand over the doubtful and the skittish. Because they inspire others and they make things happen. Embracing the behaviors of confident people is a great way to increase your odds for success which in turn will lead to more confidence. (Not my words)
The usual rate of success in any field of life is somewhere around 3% to 5%. What about rest 95-97% who are left out in the race? The answer lies in “LACK OF SKILL-SET CAUSING LACK OF SELF-CONFIDENCE”.
Developing the right set of skills is a major pillar of success. Confident people never neglect their skills & people with right skill-set are confident about what they do. So much of low self-confidence comes from not having the skills or training needed for great success. Those with confidence see clearly what they need to do to improve their chances of success. They are willing to commit the time and energy in improving their skills, advancing their training or getting more education in order to be more confident in their abilities. First master your SKILLS before marching on your journey to SUCCESS.
There is nothing like “SETTLE DOWN” for something. And never settle for mediocre. Self-assured people have a vision of what they want and they go for it. Let’s say CONFIDENT PEOPLE for better understanding. They don’t hold back & allow their fears to keep them from trying. They push themselves to go above and beyond. They set the bar high for themselves and demand excellence. They know they are as deserving of the best in both work and life.
Confidence is SEXY & you are the most expensive person in your life. People often forget to look at mirror & say “YOU DESERVE THE BEST”.
This video on Donald Dump got nothing to do with today’s post. Sad to see couple of dumbfucks still believing in voter fraud garbage what this orange piece of shit pukes. While claiming to be world’s oldest strongest democracy, America has shown last week that there is a new breed of homegrown terrorists blooming. I don’t believe in religion, race or nationalism. Hope people will rise above all to cherish humanity one day.
Confidence is always available beyond comfort zone. Yesterday i was talking little bit about confident people. This next paragraph does the same.
Confident people don’t resist learning new things. People with confidence are lifelong Learners, even when they are experts in their field. They have a learner’s mindset. They know that there is so much more in life to achieve and so many ways to grow. They aren’t entrenched in old ways of doing things or old beliefs about what is right or best. They look for ways to stretch themselves through new endeavors. They don’t get too comfortable. Confident people understand that getting too comfortable is the mortal enemy of achieving goals. That’s because they know that comfort leads to contentment and contentment leads to stagnation when they start feeling comfortable. They take it as a red flag and start pushing their boundaries so that they continue to grow.