In a generation of people who want to be heartless, and empty of feelings, then call it SAVAGE, it’ll be hard to be someone who is what a HUMAN should be. Do not become like the world.
Be loyal, be truthful, be consistent, be emotional, and be full of feelings. Be hungry for love, be thirsty for affection, and anything else human beings ought to desire. With time moving up, you will experience people who match your energy, enthusiasm & optimism.
Let others be foolish and cold. Don’t dim your light to become as dark as they are.
(This Instagram post got nothing to do with the post above. My love for G-Shock watches goes back to A-level/high school days. Not a secret i am a huge sneakerhead, but i love watches too. YES I have some 46 watches right now, 7 are Casio G-shock watches. And when my bestie DEMI sees this at evening, she can guess what to gift me during thanksgiving dinner.)😜
A high school teacher once said; “Being close & open to your opposite sex is important, you become more transparent, there’s no insecurities which makes you more confident. Later that also helps you build better relationship/friendships”. I took those words bit too seriously i guess. Even though my name is bit spoiled with university girls, I haven’t dated many in my almost close to 30 life. Actually i never missed dating someone. Being an extrovert & a LEO, I always had/have options to choose with whom i want to hangout/party/travel/workout/get cozy/watch Netflix/movie night/go hiking or shopping.
Now back to the story/confession/realisation, here it goes: Way back when I was getting over a breakup, I used to spend most of my night filled with anger & a boyish temper. I didn’t realize it back then, I had so much to achieve in my life & such negative feelings weren’t helping. I wondered why she was able to get over faster than I was. Later I realised, it’s because I was spending so much time hating that situation rather than getting over it.
Anyone from my university friends scratching their head which breakup i am talking about; it’s my bestfriend DEMI. We are bestfriends since 7th century, but we have a mad crazy past. We dated for a very short period of time, I wasn’t ready for a COMMITMENT & i literally thought we were just fooling around. Fault was mine. I said YES to 4 girls for prom night & 2 out of those 4 were our seniors. I was expecting DEMI will be cool with it. To fight back & make me jealous, DEMI went on a date with one of my friends named Ivan. Being a loyal bro, Ivan asked my permission whether he is allowed to take DEMI out for a full monty brunch. DEMI didn’t like her date. She wanted to patch what fell apart in between us, but i was more focused with my studies & part-time job. I didn’t care much because i am the kinda guy who’s happy when my bank account grows, my life is more about my growth rather than allowing someone to mess with my piece of peace. Let’s say, I am a happy man because i am married to my bank account.
It became a runner/chaser situation for a week. Sad to say, i was the runner. One saturday evening it was snowing really bad. It was a lightbulb moment for me, I invited DEMI to try my homemade sourdough pizza. It wasn’t tasty like store-bought pizza, but we both ate it with pin drop silence. That was my first try with sourdough fermentation. Next day DEMI came to my apartment early morning, we followed another recipe from some website & we baked that pizza perfectly. We both were upset about each other’s behaviour. An amazing conversation after a good pizza helped us heal. We both got the closure & clarity we needed.
Coming back to this current day called TODAY, the only person who still sits on my lap is DEMI. I can ask her for a head & back massage anytime i want. We go on long drives. It’s a weddings/royal dinner invitations/travelling to some islands during weekends, we are each other’s +1 partner. If weather is not ok, we make it better by cuddling/spooning each other. 3-4 times she suggested whether we can date again! And as usual, I am not ready for dating experiments. But we already have an amazing equation, i don’t want to destroy that by allowing some romantic melodrama. We have a verbal agreement, there’s a sweet punishment if we miss each other’s phonecall or facetime. Last time i missed DEMI’s call when i was attending a university seminar, i had to send a butt naked snapchat streak to all my 186 friends as punishment. Our communication is flawless. The truth is, it took us a long time to build the amazing equation we share & i am not strong enough to hurt her. If i know someone who is TRUTHFUL & CONSISTENT so far in my life, it’s DEMI. Now there’s nothing except RESPECT & ADMIRATION towards each other.
Takeaway: Whatever struggle you are facing in your life, make sure you are not poisoning yourself with anger when you could be giving yourself love. When you are filled with anger or hate, the only person that suffers is you because most of the people you hate don’t know it and the rest don’t care. Fill yourself with SELF-LOVE & SUCCESS before you are in search of LOVE.
What is the point in being alive if you are not going to try for something? If you are not going to at least attempt to make your time here remarkable? Stop holding yourself back. Tell the person that makes your stomach ache with hope that every part of your heart is tender for them, even if you think you aren’t ready. Don’t just fantasize about your dream job, actively pursue it, and if that door is not open, knock it down. Dreaming about a new business, go for it & own yourself. Got a goal? GO, Fetch it. Buy the plane ticket, climb a mountain, swim to shred after an intense workout session, surf when it’s raining, pet your canadian warmblood horse like a sweet puppy, surprise your mates & university bitches with some butt naked snapchat streaks on a beach, let your friends tease you “Aquaman minus SUPERPOWERS”, jump the fence, kiss an angel, makeout in the middle of a concert, full throttle that AMG to 150mph cruising through Autobahn while touring cross-country with your bestfriend.
Make sure that you don’t allow your fear to hold you back. Instead, look your fear in the face and invite it to dinner, become it’s friend. Live alongside it, let it make you feel alive. Just choose impossibility. Choose risk. Choose making mistakes, new mistakes, and making memories, and making it up as you go. Just choose to embrace whatever time you do have here, stay consistent on your life path, because life is finite, and fragile, and it vanishes too quickly. Just make it worth it. Make it count. Life is fun, let it be.
Life is a funny little process. Because sometimes you find yourself when you least expect it. Sometimes you let go when you don’t even notice you’re letting go. And sometimes the right people find you on the days you need them the most. Sometimes everything just clicks. Because the universe is always in your favor. It is always looking out for your best interest. Always making sure you get the lessons and gifts you need. Have faith in your progress because, progress is a gradual consistent process. Life is fun, let it be.
(This music video got nothing to do with the post above. Next few words are for my bestfriend DEMI, pardon your RUDEY/TAPPIE/GOLDEN BEAR/LION KING. This song was on loop 3 times & my neighbour girl was vibing looking hella sassy 🔥🔥🔥 in a bit to short denim shorts. You know my hands have their own life while dancing & I can’t get over athletic caucasian girls. Yes i hate you, actually i love your fit 🍑 little more than i like you.😂🤪 Missing your voice & vibe. No matter who’s around, you own the biggest chunk of my head & heart till i am single. Pick me from Matt’s place, office dinner tomorrow & my eyes are wide open to devour your A-game.😋 I won’t leave it open, you know I’m on on go. Moving too fast, you know I’m on on go).
Get honest with people about who you are, what you want, and how you expect to be treated. Standards only scare off the people not meant for you.
Some people have a problem, they can’t digest respect & good vibes. Stay away from those, such people don’t deserve your LOVE or ATTENTION.
My bestfriend DEMI asked me yesterday “whether i will stop hanging out with her after i get a girlfriend/partner/wife or someone significant?”. I am answering this with few lines, so that she can bookmark & read it as many times she wants. I hide nothing from no one.
Here’s my answer: My blood’s origin goes back to an eastern state of India called ODISHA. Since childhood i was taught few things which are embedded in my mind now:
1. Study, learn, get qualified & make lots of money with that knowledge. Because society is either judgemental or materialistic which respects power of MONEY & KNOWLEDGE. 2. Live for love, respect, family, and LOVE+RESPECT towards family. That’s why we have huge families. 3. MONEY you made mustn’t be used to flex in front of others. Use it to keep your family happy. 4. Invest in gold & land, this is the big kicker. That’s the reason most Indian men crave to buy more than one property & Indian women are obsessed with 24 carat pure gold jewelleries.😂 That’s all.
So one day when i enter a stable relationship, the sole purpose is to start my own family someday soon or sooner. I know whom & what to prioritise. But remember one thing dumb bitch, i feel like i know you since my past life. You are not just my bestfriend, i consider you family. You will always have 24/7 access to my house, my lap, a piggyback ride to beach & access to me no matter it’s pouring/sunny/snowing. Don’t get emotional DEMI, we are not discussing anything about this post during facetime.
Everybody has a home team: It’s the people you call when you get a flat tire or when something terrible happens. It’s the people who, near or far, know everything that’s wrong with you and love you anyways. These are the ones who tell you their secrets, who get themselves a glass of water without asking when they’re at your house. These are the ones who truly believe whatever you own partly belongs to them. These are the people who cry when you cry. These are your people, your middle-of-the-night pal, no-matter what other people think. FRIENDS COME AND GO, LIKE THE WAVES OF THE OCEAN, BUT THE TRUE ONES STAY, LIKE AN OCTOPUS ON YOUR FACE.
These few lines are dedicated to my mates who stood by my side & proved there’s something called “TIME-TESTED EQUATIONS”. Frank, Adam, Daria, Lucy, Karo, Chrissi, Emy & DEMI, thanks for wishing your TAP & joining my tiny celebration. I don’t have anything but gratitude & respect to offer you. I started a tiny health supplement business on 17-Sep-17 with a hope to promote healthy living & eating choices. Raised it like my first child & today my baby turned 4 years old. I wanted to celebrate this day little wilder, little more banter, but whatever comes with a smile is accepted. You own a huge chunk of my head & heart, ALWAYS. Everyday is a small step towards a becoming a better human. I am forever grateful. Love outta respect.
I am a good boy since i was 3 years old🤞. Anyone from my family or friends who saw bit too much sass in my snapchat stories, blame my bestie DEMI’s 🍑 & cheap Ryanair flight tickets. SORRY DEMI.🤪
When I say I want to travel, I don’t mean I want to stay at resorts and go on tours with tour guides or buy key chains from souvenir shops. I don’t want to be a tourist. When I say I want to travel, I mean I want to explore another country and become part of it for 2-3 weeks. I want to discover small coffee/baguette shops in France, churrerias in Spain, Pasta/Pizza in Italy and much more beyond. I want to walk on beaches in Australia and browse the old book stores of London & Manchester. I want to hike the great wall of china and go cliff diving in Hawaii. I want to meet people who are not like me, but people who I can like all the same. I want to take pictures of things and places and people I meet, not stupid selfies for Instagram. I want my mind to be in constant awe of life on earth. I want to see things with new eyes & an open mind. I want to look at a map and be able to remember how I was transformed by the places I’ve been to, the things I’ve seen, and the people I’ve met. I want to come home and realize that I have not come home whole, but have left a piece of my heart in each place I have been. This, I think, is what is at the heart of adventure and this is why I plan on making my life one. Basically i will retire in my 30s while i am still a PhD research scholar/student & all these are my retirement plans.
Everyone is entering relationship, getting engaged or married or pregnant, then entering depression or their 5-month validity of joy. Meanwhile me & my bestfriend just wanna look fleek, stay single and travel, while building an automotive blog, selling atheleisure clothing & whey protein supplements online. Travel because you don’t remember years, you remember memories/moments.
I hope you fall in love with being alive. I hope you read books and understand that life is so much more than expecting an apologetic text from that person you won’t remember in a couple of years. I hope you feel pursued. I hope you have the best of friends. And I even hope you get in trouble together. I hope you make fun memories and take too many pictures and scream at the top of your lungs on roller coasters. I hope you swim in the depths of the oceans. And I hope you feel the dirt underneath your fingernails when you climb mountains. I hope you know the joys of genuine laughter. I hope you know the difference between wisdom and test scores. I hope you understand that you can be anything you want to be. I hope you also understand you have to work hard to get it. I hope you stay consistent with your approach towards life. I hope you do more than sit around and complain about the things that could change. Because I hope you are the CHANGE.
I hope you journal and write every thought down. I hope you learn how to skate. I hope you eat your fruits and vegetables. I hope you treat your body well. I hope you respect your reputation. I hope you build your IDENTITY. But I also hope you have fun. In fact, I hope you have unapologetic shameless kinda fun without hurting others. Because I hope you fall in LOVE with being alive. (Not my words).
Have a goal. Wake up earlier. Smile. Start to run. Try a new breakfast recipe. Travel. Cuddle with your bestfriend. Say i care a lot about you to someone. Laugh & discover the world around you. Sing & Sleep well. Go to that specific place where you find peace within yourself. Take a picture on the top of that mountain cliff. No matter what kind of goal, have one & fight for it. Wake up everyday with motivation and fall asleep with a smile. Live your life to the fullest every second. Do exactly what you want and accomplish it.
You are the master of your life. You decide. You create. So go towards your goals. Never doubt of your capacities. You are magical.
1- Do something you’ve been procrastinating on. What’s on your to-do list that’s been sitting there? Do it first thing in the morning, and get it out of the way. You’ll feel great about yourself.
2- Get active. Doing something is almost always better than not doing anything. Of course, doing something could lead to mistakes, but mistakes are a part of life. That’s how we learn. Without mistakes, we’d never get better. So don’t worry about those. Just do something. Get off your butt and get active physically, or active by taking steps to accomplish something.
3- Act positive. More than just thinking positive, you have to put it into action at right time. Action, actually is the key to developing self-confidence. It’s one thing to learn to think positive, but when you start acting on it, you change yourself, one action at a time. (Not my words)