People bring perceptions. Even our media outlets, news channels & newspaper all try to portray a perception. The same way your understanding is also a perception. The problem with PERCEPTION is, it’s a mixture of truth, lies, nonsense, imaginary bullshit & fakefuckery.
What i want in life is TRUTH. TRUTH always remains same. There are no 2 sides to TRUTH. The story of TRUTH never changes. TRUTH’s approach, flow, guidance, information & assistance all are CONSISTENT. If someone/something is TRUTHFUL, the only proof is whether it’s CONSISTENT. TRUTH IS CONSISTENT, ALWAYS.
(RIP Sir David Amess. Everytime there’s a knife attack or rape/drugs/abduction incident, either it’s a Pakistani or a Somalia based immigrant who’s the culprit in 90% cases. I am not just talking about UK, this happened in Germany before a month & couple of times in Montreal-Canada last year. And this thing called ISLAMIC EXTREMISM has no sign of stopping. Fuck that idea of religion which makes you kill someone in the name of GOD. There should be a definition for this term TERRORIST.Every motherfucker who owns an illegal weapon is a terrorist in my eyes & every person who supports them must be treated the same way. All Governments must come together to form a resolution that next time a terrorist is killed or captured, never mention he belongs to which country/religion/organization. Just mention, an INSECT was caught & killed. That’s it. Giving these assholes an identity is a major failure of our society.)
You have to chase the things that ignite you. You have to do the things that bring you joy. You have to surround yourself with the people who bring you back home to yourself, with the people who respect you and embrace you in ways that make you feel like you are worthy and accepted and celebrated and loved. You have do the work to heal yourself, even when it hurts especially when it hurts, so that you do not continue to approach your life within the boundary of what is heavy within you. You have to put yourself out there, and you cannot worry about what other people think, you cannot rob yourself of experience or happiness or inspiration because you are scared of how you will be perceived. You have to be unapologetic in the way that you exist here. You have to believe that your ideas, and your hope, and your being, deserve to take up space. You have to believe that you have purpose.
Because our existence is finite. And as hard as that is to understand, as hard as that can be to connect with, from time to time remind yourself that in the most human way we are all living on borrowed time. We live as if we are promised the experiences and the potential we are chasing, we live as if we have control over what happens to us. But we don’t, and that is liberating, because it is pressing there is urgency within the lesson. It is meant to wake you up. Life is meant to be lived. (Not my words).
You can’t fuck up anything that is meant for you. So stop being so scared of what will happen. Trust your intuition, stay consistent with your approach, stay relevant with your purpose, let your heart and soul guide you on this journey.
Life is fun, let it be.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. It’s a comparison by Food insider about Ben & Jerry’s ice cream in UK & USA. I am jealous of USA only for this one reason, and maybe Disneyland. That’s all.)
Mama once said; “We don’t just entertain friends/relationships outta fun, we build them over time, we respect them & we keep them. That’s why never accept or serve discounted garbage”.
I was in my teen days. I was still getting pocket money from parents. I wasn’t able to understand those heavy/right words. I thought my mum was talking about not buying discounted clothes/stuffs or wasting money with friends during weekend trips. Most of my friends know i hate discounted clothes now too. In fact, i don’t have a single piece of clothing from any fast fashion brands.
Coming closer to my 30, now i am understanding that she told me not to hangout with people who have discounted/cheap personality/approach/attitude/mindset, It took me almost 14 years to figure out the real meaning behind those wise words. Being a MAN means progression of understanding, knowledge, acceptance & virtue while developing better habits.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Watch it to understand how your shopping habits are shaping a climate & humanitarian disaster. There’s a reason I never buy clothes from H&M, Zara, TK Maxx or any store/brand with 50% discount board. I buy clothes which cost at least a hundred quid or more, and i wear them for ages. They stay with me because, I know I have spent enough money to buy them. And i fully remember how much I paid, I have a photographic memory. Fun part is, I still have t-shirts, jackets, hoodies & sneakers from my 8th grade & engineering college days which fit perfectly even today. FYI, I am a sneakerhead & my love for watches is something divine.)
Figure out what you want to do with your life and just do it. Dedicate a separate journal for you to write down all of your goals. And don’t just stop at journaling, make detailed steps towards achieving them. Stopping sitting around and half arsing your way through things because you can’t seem to find any direction, because seriously, life is what you make it and sometimes you need to get up and force yourself to do the things you know will benefit future you.
Things like I’m still young or I’m too old are out of the question. No matter how old you are, what you study or where you study, use the time you have right now to learn & hustle. I mean really hustle. Because you don’t want to look back and say you should’ve worked harder, trained harder, tried harder, thought harder, loved harder or fought harder. DISCIPLINE & CONSISTENT APPROACH towards all your EFFORTS are your only two best friends in your journey. Don’t give yourself a reason to have regrets later on in life.
Our thoughts are so powerful that we must always be mindful and conscious of what we’re telling ourselves. We have the power to manifest anything we want with the power of our thinking. So often we can get into a pattern of negative thinking without even realising it, and before we know it we have brought into our lives the very thing we were afraid of. The good news is that this principle also works for positive thoughts. By thinking wonderful things about our lives, we are subconsciously changing them with the energy of our perspective.
Make sure you spend today thinking thoughts aligned with your dreams. Cut out the thoughts that are bringing you down. In this process of nurturing your thoughts, stay consistent with your approach. (Not my words).
1.Who live in my city or near my city (max 2-4 hours away). We text whole day. Talk every night. Meet every weekend or we meet at least once in two weeks. 2.Who live in a different continent with huge timezone gap. We text here & there. We talk every weekend. We meet once or twice in a year.
I never entertained anything below these two. That’s the reason most of my friends are my friends since past 1600 years. It’s hard to entertain new people, because people are hella inconsistent with their approach. And consistency is a quality very few people pack in their soul, which soothes our soul in return. Consistent communication is the backbone of every equation.
Thanks to everyone who wished me “HAPPY BIRTHDAY”, who sent a big box of sneakers or a tiny little gift with a card, who knocked my door at 12am, who threw cake on my face, who hugged me from behind, who squeezed me, who slapped my ass, who kissed my cheeks purposefully, who kissed my lips accidentally, who snatched my phone, who made a mess in my living room, who had pizza at 1am with me, who put redwine on my white couch, who went on a late night drive with me, who gave me a head massage & back massage in front of 17 friends, who said “we are friends forever”, & who told me “TAPPIE YOU ARE WHOLE MINE THIS LIFE OR NEXT”.
At the end i must say, I don’t give a shit about birthdays. I am not a 3yr old kid who’s dying for gifts & people around. The more i am moving closer towards my 30, the more i am missing my high school, engineering college or MBA days, sometimes i also think about getting married & pumping 90-95 babies inside my future wifey. Kids are angelic to my eyes, not a secret.
I love you all because i love the vibe. You all make me a better me. Your wishes help me move forward stronger. Your midnight calls make me see a new world. Your energy makes me feel energetic. All of you are adored. Many call me TAP, some say TAPPIE, BESTIE DEMI says RUDEY coz my resting bitch face is hella rude, 3 say DADDY for fun, and everything is accepted that comes with a smile. Still feeling like a 16. Feeling like nothing much has changed in me, the same naughty sporty happy happening beefcake i used to be. Birthdays aren’t that important, friends showing up to surprise you at 12am is important. These feelings are irreplaceable. I owe you all whole of me. (If anyone noticed bit too much of sass in my snapchat stories, JUST SWALLOW IT.)🤪
I receive ton of thirsty texts, calls, dms, snaps every single day. Not proud of it because i am not proud of the body count streak i was into for a long long time. When i say “now my bank account is my boo”, i really really mean my words. People chase you thinking they might get a chance to experience the same exciting life that you live, that’s all. I am not against it. Basically that’s how we humans usually approach relationships & materials. We always desire something that’s beyond our reach/budget.
In relationships that same thing causes toxicity, any kind of relationships i mean, friends, family or romantic equations as well. Choose people with whom you can vibe & stick together for a long long time without getting bored of all generic unenthusiastic human traits. Chasing someone is not worth it, it drains energy resulting nothing. Choose those who choose you.
Two people want each other. True. Vibe. Grow. Stick together. A relationship must be as simple and easy as that. Just cut & exit when anything else beyond/below that comes to play, that’s nothing but pure mindfuckery.
I love being single because “I DON’T LIKE/WANT OBLIGATION”, the same reason I don’t like debt or mortgages. My approach to life remains the same no matter where I am dealing with whatsoever kinda situation. And YES, I do believe in a truthful togetherness.