I am yet to reach 30s & i can say one thing from my observation & experience; “People who aren’t successful/happy with their life, always find reasons to justify their lie/cheat/nonsense/inconsistency every single time with the easiest predictable way”.
Now why i focus on these two words “SUCCESS” & “HAPPINESS” in most of my posts? My answer is; A successful person is more focused on his success rather than rest garbage of life. I am saying it for a relationship as well. Even research studies show successful people hardly cheat in a relationship because they have better things to achieve in life.
So what goes wrong here; when you aren’t happy with yourself or when you aren’t successful in your career/finance/your own goals/dreams, even you don’t know what HAPPINESS means to you. You swing every possible way without next thought in search of that happiness to every wrong place. Nobody can bring happiness to your life. We humans are engineered to like predictable things, i mean a predictable tomorrow with what’s gonna happen, what lifestyle we gonna enjoy, what house we gonna live, what will be our next vacation, what will be our next vehicle, all such things. In modern world most dream big, but sadly it’s daydreaming. Big dreams bring sadness when you see them fading away. It’s your responsibility to sort out your own life first.
Find your peace within yourself. Find your happiness within yourself. Find what “SUCCESS” means to you within yourself. A stable YOU is the priority, rest can join later.
The world is filled with people who, no matter what you do, will point blank not like you. But it is also filled with those who will love you fiercely, they are your people. You are not for everyone and that’s OK.
Talk to people who can hear you.
Don’t waste your precious time and gifts trying to convince others your value, they won’t ever want what you’re selling. Don’t convince them to walk alongside of you. You’ll be wasting both your time and theirs and will likely inflict unnecessary wounds, which will take precious time to heal. You are not for them and they are not for you; politely wave them on, and continue along your way. Sharing your path with someone is a sacred gift; don’t cheapen this gift by rolling yours in the wrong direction. Keep facing your true north.
Life is kind of like a party. You invite a lot of people, some leave early, some stay all night, some laugh with you, some laugh at you, and some show up really late. But in the end, after the fun, there are a few who stay to help you clean up the mess. And most of the time, they aren’t even the ones who made the mess. These people are your true friends in life.
The hardest part about wanting something real is trying to convince everybody you’re not crazy for feeling like you deserve it. But then you realize, you don’t have to prove anything to anybody.
All you have to do is… Be patient enough to make it right. Be committed enough to make it strong. Be honest enough to make it last. Us genuine ones deserve something great, we deserve something authentic. And we reserve the right not to be impressed with the usual. It’s not about being too picky or having unrealistic expectations, it’s about knowing you’ve dealt with enough of the BS and you’ve earned the right to have a preference.
Stay true to you, even when nobody gets it. Trust your heart, even when you’re scared. Believe in love, even after you’ve been hurt. Things get better the minute we stop expecting them to be perfect. Timing is everything, so always remember: Some amazing things can happen when you mix patience with hope.