I have seen most people entering & exiting relationships with a bad taste in mouth about their partner, i experienced that bad taste just once in my life. A lesson which taught me: “CHEAP GETS CHEAPER WITH TIME”. When somebody offers you a lackluster behaviour, just recite the previous bold line i mentioned & never forget YOU ARE THE MOST EXPENSIVE THING IN THIS WORLD.
Life is all about being a better you with time, no matter you are alone or with someone in any kind of relationship/commitment. If someone isn’t helping you in this journey to be a better you, that’s not your person. Prioritise those who prioritise you.
Few friends still questioning “Whether i am dating Demi?” Answer is a huge NO. Yes I adore her character, elegance, intelligence & an open mindset to receive everything. That’s the only person with whom i can have a conversation about data analytics to Coco Chanel. Very few people can be that versatile. What sets both of us apart is “I really can’t remember what’s the last time i called her & she didn’t answer my call”. No doubt i have some University pals who are on a 24/7 alert mode to join my stupid weekend plans, but Demi does that no matter whether she is in my city or somewhere else. That’s one thing about her i will forever be grateful, we are best friends for a reason and that’s never changing.
We all have shit days every now and then. All of us. No matter how perfect we aspire to be, and no matter how many things we promised ourselves we would do, sometimes all the things we wanted to achieve just can’t happen in one day and that is perfectly okay. That’s called being realistic. So your day was shit, well pick yourself right back up. Chances are you achieved more than you think you did and you’re just being hard on yourself. Am I right? I think I am. Today was a bit of a fail. Oh well. Tomorrow is a new day. Get that chin up. Your mindset is your most under-valued asset. Keep that ass moving. The goal is to become a better version of ourself every single day coming. Tomorrow is always an upgrade of today.
Don’t worry about what people think of you or about the way they try to make you feel. If people want to see you as a good person, they will. If they want to see you as a bad person, absolutely nothing you do will stop them. Ironically, the more you try to show them your good intentions, the more reason you give them to knock you down if they are commited to misunderstanding you.
Keep your head up high and be confident in what you do. Be confident in your intentions and keep your eyes ahead instead of wasting your time on those who want to drag you back. Because you can’t change people’s views, you have to believe that true change for yourself comes from within you, not from anyone else. STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF & JUST YOURSELF, THAT’S ENOUGH.
(That post on 10-April was scheduled before a year. Don’t take it seriously, things change. That’s the reason i deleted it.)
Look around you. How many people do you think are settling? Probably a hell of a lot. People settle into okay relationships, okay jobs, okay friends, and an okay life. Why? Because okay is comfortable. Okay pays the bills, and provides a warm bed at night. Some people are fine with okay, and guess what? That’s okay. But okay is not thrilling, it isn’t passion, it’s not life changing or unforgettable. Okay is not the reason you risk absolutely everything you’ve got for the smallest chance that something absolutely amazing could happen. Okay isn’t fun.
You have this one life. How do you wanna spend it? Apologizing? Regretting? Questioning? Hating yourself? Running after people who don’t care for you? Be brave to say NO to this OKAY. Believe in yourself. Do what feels good. You have this one life. Make yourself proud.