Most people always start worrying too much about being nice. Before i say anything against you, let me be clear I appreciate you & your concern.
My way of thinking is little different. Kindness can affect both the giver and receiver in a positive way, but worrying about whether or not you’re nice enough can actually hurt you. Feeling anxious when you think about how others perceive you can be a huge drain on your energy. You need to remember that your needs must be met before you can give to others. If you forget to leave some mental energy for yourself, you could find yourself suffering from burnout or depression. Always first prioritise yourself.